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writes:My boyfriend cheated on me when i was pregnate with his baby. I told him it was over and he began to cry and appolagize and said he wants to raise our baby together and he will always love me and he will never do it again. so i forgave him. but he has done it several more times but he has stoped sence my daughter has been born. should i get rid off him. Or see if he has changed?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2007): I agree with Dr Psych, and I personally had a cheating boyfriend, and I kept taking him back for several years, and he never changed, and he wanted to marry him.
If you allow him to come back YOU are setting a pattern. Can't tell you what to do, but I would if I were in your shoes, move on and try to get along with him as my baby's father, but nothing more...You and your child deserve better.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (30 May 2007):
 I am pregnant at the moment and if my husband cheated on me I would show him the door because I would take it as a huge disrespect to me as the mother of his child and our unborn baby. Some men get scared at the prospect of becoming fathers and having to settle down. However, that is no excuse for cheating and his tears are the crocodile variety. You indicate that he has cheated on you many times and you seem to just take him back. It is wrong because it sends him a message that he can do what he likes and it is an inappropriate role-model message to your child who will in later life come to learn of their father's behaviour and take that message into their own adult life. You say he hasn't cheated since the baby came along but is this because you know for sure or you have been too busy caring for the child to check up on him? I think women feel emotional and vulnerable enough in pregnancy without the burden of dealing with a cheating partner. I cannot tell you to kick him out as it is your life, but if I was you then I would certainly tread with caution. I think by your very posting here, you have doubts about the future of the relationship. You have to remember that children are just one part of a relationship and you and your partner should also have a relationship as a couple based on trust...not sure that applies in your case.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2007): If a person can cheat on you repeatedly I would be inclined to think that they can, and will, do it again. But that said, sometimes having a child can really change a man. Only you can decide whether or not you want to have him in your life, he's obviously hurt you a lot and it will be difficult for him to earn your trust back but it is not impossible.
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reader, love-him +, writes (30 May 2007):
 Babe this is up to you, he has cheated on you what, about 4/5 times?? but you say he hasnt whilst your babe has bin born.. how do you know he hasnt.. many people believe once a cheater always a cheater.. i dont.. cheating can be a mistake but once its done more than once in the same relationship.. this isnt healthy chick.. id suggest you end it.. for the obvious reasons, but let him see his lil babe no matter what.. But.. like i said its your decision, you have a lil babe to think of but if you and your partner r gna argue bout anythin..or let the babe see anyfin she shudnt id sugest you leave him.. hope i helped x x x
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