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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have been with my boyfriend for two years. And previous to me he went out with a girl for a year and half. He always told me he never cheated on her but I recently he told me he slept with a couple of other girls when he was with her because he didn't trust her. I feel betrayed and hurt he lied to me about this and has made me paranoid. He says I have no right to know and pry into his previous relationship as how u act in a relationship depends on who you are with and just because you acted a certain way before doesn't mean you will do it in a future relationship. However 6 months ago I found out my boyfriend kissed two other girls when we were having a very very bad patch and he was drunk and on drugs. We are really happy now and spend so much time together. He says he loves me and trusts me so would never sleep with any one else and only kissed them girls cause he was so out of it! But is once a cheat always a cheat and am I just being fooled?
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reader, swampfire  +, writes (14 December 2010):
 He is cheating on you,leave him before it's too late. I just went through the same thing with this guy and now am stuck coz i got pregnant and am not working at the moment.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (13 December 2010):
Absolutely dump him.
First of all, you can nearly always judge someone from how they were in a previous relationship. If they cheated previously, the probably will again, If they hit someone previously, they probably will again. If they're nasty previously, the probably will be again.
Sometimes, people are able to change. Often though, they don't.
Your boyfriend is a classic example of someone who won't change. Ever. He cheated previously, and he has done with you. And his excuses for it are even poorer - "drugs and drink". Great, so he's a druggie. Won't make a good husband or father at all then.
100% dump him and never look back. He'll destroy you, and laugh at you while he does.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2010): In response to the OP, get shot of this guy. He cheated on his ex because he didn't trust her??? How lame is that? Cheating isn't acceptable full stop but that's just bullshit.
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