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writes: I was in a 7 year relationship marred by continuous affairs by my man. I know of at least 12. I lived with him on three occasions but always moved out becuase I found he was cheating. He always came back to me, always said he loved me. I paid rent to live in his house, did his cooking, cleaning, typing for his job etc. Then this new man started at my workplace and he liked me. So I finished with the cheater and took up with the new man. He is lovely, adores me, but is recently separated. His money is tied up of course and he does not have a car at the moment but he does earn good money. I enjoy being with him, he is affectionate, warm and caring and we have a lot of good times together. However the other guy is texting me and I meet from time to time. He wants me back, wants to buy a house (he is very wealthy) together and provide for me, love me and make amends. I am confused, I work with my current guy so he is here all the time, we don't live together, but I have feelings for the old guy who treated me terribly. He knows he treated me badly and wants to make up for it. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2005): Are you nuts?? Your ex-boyfriend is one smooth talking "player" whether you want to believe that or not. Twelve times! Unbelievable. This man loves to cheat..and he will keep dragging you down into his seedy world again if you allow him back into your life. Cheating is downright lying and betrayal. If you continue to accept this from him, he will continually do it. When a partner cheats, he or she is showing complete disregard for the other's well being. If the betrayed partner examines the relationship closely, there are likely many other examples of disrespect, insensitivity, and lack of caring. What you see is what you get. He did it once and got away with it, so he'll do it again.
A good quote to adhere to is "A man you can't keep ain't a man worth keeping." There is no reason at all to cheat. If he loves you and wants to be with you, then he has none at all. Have self-respect and love yourself before any other. Don't be a foolish women and take him back. Don't be one of those pitiful women who lack self love and keep putting up with this. Hopefully this isn't a case of love is blind.....and deaf and dumb as well! I wish you luck..and pleeease...get over this man.
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reader, namless_lover +, writes (14 July 2005):
First off, as long as your new guy has enough to pay for food, shelter, and transportation the other wordly possesions can wait. Second any guy that would cheat on you a minimum of 12 times doesn't really love you, or else he could try to show it by keepin it in his pants. Forget him, move on, and think of this new guy that cares for you and looks out for you, how can you move ahead if you keep looking back?
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