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writes:So I cheated on my bf and I told him...I told because I hate lieing to him..At first he took it like it was okay then later he wrote me a long ass message..Saying that he thought he couldn't take it but he said it was time he let me go...But the thing is the whole time he still called me babe...Even though he said there was no more us..Anyways we broke up for 2 weeks now were back together...I love him alot and he loves me alot too...So were back together but this time it feels different..Well I guess it should knowing that I cheated but he always tells me what happens in the past is in the past...So why cant he get over me ceating...When he did it too..So basically Im really confused weather to saty with him or not?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2010): If both of you are cheaters your relationship will never last. relationships usually don't last even when there is just one cheater. Cheaters are just not respectful or serious enough with their partners to make things last. As simple as that.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (29 July 2010):
 He cheated too? Im not sure if you mean he actually did the same as you or just something similar, but two wrongs doesn't make a right. He has every right to be upset with you and not forgive you, just because he cheated himself doesn't mean he has to forgive and forget. If you were able to forgive him, good for you, but he is not you.
I think it is best to end this relationship, you are so young anyways that you will have no problem being single for a while. I think maybe cheating is a sign that you are not ready to be in a committed relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2010): Bottom line, if two people cant trust each other, then they probably shouldnt be together. It doesnt seam like he is going to fully trust you, and him having done it also makes me wonder if you can trust him. Did he cheat just to get back at you, or did it happen before you cheated? It seams like he still cares and wants to be together, but you have to understand him being upset about it all. I know you went through it too, but he probably feels a lot more insecure and wonders what it is about him, that you didnt like enough to cheat on him. Even if it was just a fling and didnt mean anything, he still might be taking it hard and personally. You should be open and talk to him about it. If you are willing to stay commited to him and never do this again, and he is willing to do the same, then you two can try to work it out and move past this. If you two still dont think you can trust each other, then you might need to move on for both your sakes.
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