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writes:Ok so I've been with my bf for a little over 3 years now. When we first got together I had cheated on him. He broke up with me and evetually he took me back and its been good ever since. I apoligized to him continuously about how sorry I was I would never cheat on him again which I haven't and won't. Now my problem is that he can't get over it and he is still bringing it up and putting it in my face. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): I think you should break up. You destroyed his trust, he tried to forgive you and trust you again, and it apparently isn't working. You both need a fresh start. He needs a girl he can trust and you need a guy who isn't harping on you all the time. You can't be those people for each other anymore.
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reader, Tirekyll  +, writes (16 December 2009):
I find myself having trouble answering this, I believe everyone deserves a second chance. If you're talking about a long distance relationship, the trust will never return as he can't touch you or hold you, or look into your eyes to see and feel that you love him totally and no one else. I don't think it's right for him to continue bringing it up and likely accusing you for doing it after all this time.If this is a real life relationship(not to say it's fake, but you two together in real) then I think he should get over it and see that you are trustworthy and made an honest mistake.
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reader, cnr_06 +, writes (16 December 2009):
cnr_06 is verified as being by the original poster of the question woah let me rephrase that you have the wrong idea completely he is the one who brings it up not me I'm over it like for real he just can't get over it, ok anonymous user! at the time yes i did "aplogized continously" when it was still fairly new but its been 3 years why would I bring it up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2009): " apoligized to him continuously" Theres your problem - stop bringing it up, he probly doesnt want to be reminded, if you forget about it, he will too, but he could probly do alot better than you, your lucky that he's still with you, i know that if my bf cheated on me i wouldnt take him back. Get over yourself, and if you cant live with it, then maybe split up and let him find someone worth it. x
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