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writes:i am married for 29 years my husband often had afairs but stopped almost 20 years now he has now join a chat line and speaks to a girl often where he contacts her but that has stopped she now contacts him regulary he was about to leave with her he even went to the airport to meet her but i found out caught him at the airport and he came home with me they often chat where he makes her cum and she makes him cum it has now really affected my sex life where he does not have sex with me as he can not get a erection for me when i ask him about it he denies is it because he is chttin to this lady that he does not get a erection please answer my call thanx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2009): Ummm...why arent you divorced already?1. Your husband had a lot of affairs you say in the beginning.2. hes chatting online sexually with a female, went to meet her, and only didnt go with her cos you were there.Okay first things first, you need to leave him. Men can get erections even if they have masturbated two times in a day so hes lying to you about not being able to get an erection for you. Second hes lying when he says he doesnt get an erection over this woman as you say in the beginning, you know he does anyway! Hes taking total advantage of you!
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reader, dr.2.be  +, writes (12 July 2009):
 Im going to be blunt.
Your husband is not treating you right. Hes a cheater and this far in the game I don't think he will change.
He is not getting an erection for you because he has this other woman on his mind. He denies it because he doesn't want you to think he is fooling around with someone else; you are the only woman in his life. BS! To him, what he is doing is very fun to because this new girl is interesting and different. He enjoys the thrill of cheating, if he didn't he wouldn't be doing it again 20 years later.
If I were you I would have a serious talk about this issue with him and let him know how much this hurts you. I normally don't like to do this but feel free to 'snoop' you have a good reason to. Collect as much evidence as you can so he will have a hard time denying it. Tell him to change his ways, go out on dates together and renew the sexual and emotional attraction that you once had for each other.
If this does not work you may want to consider leaving and getting a divorce. I know that may be hard but no one should have to go through this. If it resorts to this, remember there are plenty of nice guys out there who will treat you like the princess you are. :-)
Best of Luck!
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reader, straight to the truth  +, writes (12 July 2009):
Ok bare with me on this one,
I have a boyfriend who i love dearly, recently i caught him chatting to another girl online, even claimed he was single so he could have a flirt online. i found this out because he swapped his msn address with the girl and she happened to be my best friend! she called me straight away and explained what had happened and neither of them new it was the other one and advised me to talk to him. I was devasated and i spoke to him and he has explained why he did it and swares it will never happen again. I have told him already if i ever see him on the website again i will leave him because if he is with me then he is with me. if he wants to pretend to be single then he will be single, its that simple. he has never cheated but what he has done has already put him on his final warning and i mean it.
You husband has not only betrayed your marriage in the past but he has now built an online relationship and was prepared to leave you for this woman!!! this is not a loving relationship that your in. Why stick with it when he obviously has no respoect for you or your feelings. he knows what he is doing is wrong, he is cheating on you by what he is doing online!
This must be a huge strain on you and you must be feeling incredibly low because of all what is going on so why not gain that little bit of self respoect and tell him to leave, you can then move on with your life and find a man worthy of your love and affection who respoects you are your relationship.
i truley hope this helps and i really hope you find someone who loves you and wants to take care of you.
all the best
x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2009): please get some self esteem and leave this man, he is no good.
you deserve to have someone who is all yours
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