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writes:Just looking for a bit of advise. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 2 1/2 years now. I know its perfectly healthly in relationships to have up's and downs but at the moment i'm finding things hard. I've expressed how I feel to him and he's said that he understands and that he will makes things better. But the only problem with this is that I've heard it all before yet were here again in the situation. At what point do I say enough is enough? We can be extremely close but he always other things to get in the way and can be selfish at times. I just wanna feel like a priority of his again rather than just a convience. Because he has said to me in the past that things will get better but the same problems have arised weeks later, I feel like I need to drum into him that I'm not happy but the things which cause this unhappyness can be sorted with just a little bit of effort. When do I know that I've said enough to him to make him realise that I'm serious? Thanks for any advise given. Reply to this Question
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reader, nologo  +, writes (14 May 2007):
 Actually there are different patterns of relationship.
In wave-like relationship type you have ups and downs.
However, this is not the case with the situation you are now.
Some relationships begin as troubled and continue as such for a while until both partners are ready to search for midpoints.
"I just wanna feel like a priority of his again" - why AGAIN?
You mean things were "all correct" for you in the beginning?
If it's true, he lost motivation for "a little bit of effort"
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