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writes:I have a male friend that used to go out with my ex-flat mate, i got to know him realy well through her and we were really close. i'd not seen him for over a year, we met up, went for a drink in his local, then he invited me in and we watched some tv. About half an hour later he askes me for a hug for old times sake, so i thought fair enough, he was hugging me for a while and stayed with his arms around me and his head on my shoulder. Then he kissed my arm a few times; i didn't know what to do; i've liked him for a long time and never told a soul, now all of a sudden he's coming on to me. i thought to myself, great he must want the same thing as me so i went for it, we didn't sleep together because i didn't want to rush things. when i left to go home he said that we'd have to meet up soon. i text him the next day because i was confused, i wanted to know what he wanted and basically he just wanted to get his leg over, he said he's not looking for a relationship and now he's gone weird on me tellin me to chill out because we've not seen one another for over a year and the next thing i'm asking for a relationship. the way i see it, if he hadn't have come on to me that night, i would never have said anything. i just hope that he will want to meet up and be normal around me again. i would love for ben to be my boyfriend but i'd prefer him as a mate than nothing at all. i do't know what to do for the best?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2007): I've a question. Did he want to advance things and you stopped him? If you hadn't, when would he have told you that he doesn't seek for a serious relationship? The next day? These intentions should be stated very clearly from the beginning, to avoid any subsequent confusions. On the other hand he says it's too early for a relationship. Is that true. Question marks. Be very careful about this. It seems he doesn't want to get involved, this means "temporary." Danger. Find someone who is willing to share a complete relationship!, and meanwhile know this person better as friends. Or, if you are sure you can deal with it as an affair which is what he wants at least for now... but I wouldn't recommend such. As you already wish for more!...
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