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He came back after 2 months and has left again. I'm falling apart!

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Question - (1 March 2009) 1 Answers - (Newest, 1 March 2009)
A female United States age 51-59, anonymous writes:

I allowed him back into my life after 2 months. i even took care of him when he was sick. On Sunday he bought me gifts. Things seemed fine then four days laterhe drops me cold again. I am devastated. Why was I so stupid. Is there something wrong with him. I have had many successful relationships perhaps they werent the "one". This guy was the one. I can hardly function. What causes a man to do this. He wont even discuss what happened which makes it harder. If i wasnt for him then why did he come back. is he a commitment phobe. help i really can not function.

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A female reader, natasia United Kingdom +, writes (1 March 2009):

natasia agony auntHmm. I'm sorry, but I suspect that it is his problem - and a BIG problem. I suspect he builds you up, then the reality of being with you isn't quite what he wants it to be (well, what i mean is, he's great at wanting and hoping and missing, but when he is living the actuality, it doesn't feel as good to him - so he thinks it's sh*t, and he drops you again - then he misses you, builds you up, wants to come back - you see how it goes).

sweetie, not all people are dysfunctional like this. it is him. you will be able to function perfectly well, without him. just have the courage. you need to drop it with him totally, and look elsewhere - to normal guys.

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