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writes:I am so confused with my emotions at the moment when it comes to a guy I have been seeing. I got a new job almost a year ago, I work nights and he works during the day so we only saw each other occasionally then in the summer we both worked together a lot. I thought he was cute and I told him that when I first started working but in a friendly way. We started talking in July, all day everyday, and then summer ended and we don't see each other much at work because he is in school and works weekends. We've gone out in groups and find ourselves alone a lot but we're both very shy so we just talk which I don't mind.One weekend came and we left my friends and went to a park and walked around for a few hours. He was very nervous just too hold my hand and kiss me. I was very happy and I thought he was too, but he texts me apologizing saying he was rusty( he is also a virgin and very shy) and I didn't understand what was the problem. I told him I was happy it happened and he said he was too. Then a few days later he text me saying he cant handle a relationship right now, with school and work, and he isn't emotionally or physically ready. I told him I understood which I do but at the same time I don't I have never made it seem like I need to be around him all the time, because I was happy with whatever it is we had. I felt like we were already in some kind of relationship with the way we were talking. So naturally I stopped texting him after that night because I am very hurt, I am not in love with him but I think I do love him and now I am so confused with my own emotions. But everyday when Im leaving work I get a text from him and we talk for hours. He still has feelings for me which just adds to my confusing.I want a relationship with him, but I also respect that school comes first, but I want to talk about it with him but he gets upset and says the conversation goes in circles but he never explains anything. I am happy I still get to talk to him everyday but I don't know how I am suppose to lose feelings for him if we are always talking, I feel like he's hoping I will still want to be with him once he is done school in January. I just don't know how to talk to him about this, or what he wants from me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2014): I think you both don't know what is happening. . Heis busy, ok, but he can't make any time for you at all?? Even when people are very busy, they still have to eat, right? So, you guys could catch a dinner from now and then.
Gus have a hard time explaining anytig, don't count on that in a future. And anyway, I didn't understand the part when you said: I am not in love with him, but I love him. This what women say about someone they lived with for 20 years. The in love feeling goes away but the love for a person is still there.
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