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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (11 July 2016):
 six years is a long time to be together, therefore I would usually suggest meeting up with each other and talking about it in person, I assume that you broke up with him over the phone? The thing is your comment was ugly, why judge other people? It is not a nice thing to do, so I see his point. Also not writing back in seven hours, well he may have been busy, so am not sure why it was turned in to an argument, maybe you both need a break from each other.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (9 July 2016):
 Looks like you did leave something out. He meant ugly as in mean.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (9 July 2016):
 Just saw your follow up and it's one of those rare instances where I take back my answer. Your follow up changes a lot of things and puts things in a whole new perspective.
You referred to someone in an offensive and derogatory manner and he said only an ugly person would say that in response to what you said. Suddenly he's not the one looking so bad OP.
Looking back at your question now, maybe he took 7 hours because he was busy or distracted or even asleep. Things look really one-sided when you put them just from your perspective but suddenly attain a whole new meaning when you see it from both sides.
Honestly, your boyfriend is looking much better right now. You're not really the one who's wronged here
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reader, miss frank +, writes (9 July 2016):
Yep, I'm with when cows attack right now OP- you aren't looking quite the victim right now?
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reader, WhenCowsAttack  +, writes (9 July 2016):
So you made fun of heavyset people and he found it offensive. I don't blame him, that is extremely offensive and childish. Poor example that makes you look like the jerk.
So he went 7 whole hours with no contact. He was probably busy or working. Come on, have a little independence. Grownups don't need to be in constant contact and need to know one another's whereabouts 24/7. Maybe he feels suffocates. Give each other a little breathing space. He's a grown man, not your child.
Unless you've got something else you're leaving out I'm more inclined to sympathize with your bf at the moment.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (9 July 2016):
 "only an ugly person would say that" are you sure he didn't mean ugly as in 'mean' in response to your txt?
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reader, Anonymous 123 +, writes (9 July 2016):
You don't do anything. You just block him from your life and don't give him a single second more of your time and you finally feel happy with your decision to kick him to the curb because this is what you should have done a long, long time ago. How dare he call you an ugly person? That is the very moment you should have dumped him. Never mind, better late than never.
Don't expect an apology anytime soon; however be sure that he'll try to get back because abusers rarely give up easily. Please don't give in and cut him out of your life for good.
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reader, Misspiggyloveskermy +, writes (9 July 2016):
Misspiggyloveskermy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnother example
I text him whilst I was shopping about the size of a family whom were in front of me and he replied only an ugly person would say that
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reader, Misspiggyloveskermy +, writes (9 July 2016):
Misspiggyloveskermy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHello AndieWe argued about why it Took him 7 hours to return the text We don't live together so we communicate a lot during the day by text
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reader, Misspiggyloveskermy +, writes (9 July 2016):
Misspiggyloveskermy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI've been with him for 6 years. Why? Good question
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reader, miss frank +, writes (9 July 2016):
I'm just wondering why you are with him? Sounds like a cycle of destruction really. What's the good points of the relationship? Often relationships are held together by negative cycles and the highs that follow the awful lows such as occurs in the break ups. You sound like you have had a lot of break ups! What's in this for you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2016): Do nothing but forget him.Stay active and meet people and demand a higher standard fron your next partner!
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (9 July 2016):
Why did it start because it took him 7 hours to reply to a text?
He'd hardly call you those names for no reason, so I think you've left some important information out, here. However, you should just let go and move on.
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