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writes:Hey guys, right now I'm here in my room confused as to what I should do about this situation. About three months ago, I met this guy online and we spoke frequently until the point came where we met up. when we did meet, he told me that he was looking for something serious and was hoping to have that with me. At first I was skeptical because I did not want to go through another heart break, but I told myself that I shouldn't let that keep me from trying to find love. So I let him in. Everything was fine between us, we spoke often, told each other how much we missed one another, and talked most of the day. Then out of the blue he comes and tell me that he doesn't think we should be together, and of course that hurt me. Eventually we spoke about it and decided to work through his issues, (he told me the reason he didn't think we should stay together is because he was unhappy with him self) well you guys should be able to guess why I am here now, but this time he told me that he is attracted to someone else and he doesn't want to be with me. He just straight out said " I'm attracted to someone else and I don't care what you say, I don't care how you feel, there's nothing you can do about it." Of course I cried... it killed me. because the day before he was telling me how much he loved me and how happy he was... I'm sorry, this is so hard to write, I'm sorry if the story is confusing. I'm a little lost myself. this all happened today by the way, and when I went to bring him some of the things he left in my house, he just looked at me like he hated me and asked for his stuff back. So I gave it all back and walked away crying, I couldn't bring myself to believe that he would do this. I asked him if he wanted to be with me and he said no, because he is confused and I cried. he told me to just get out and leave him alone.... I just need some help with this, it's kind of hard for me to fully explain this. can someone help? :'(
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (13 April 2012):
 I think this is not uncommon in "online" relationships. You were a fantasy to him and all of a sudden he realize that you were not who he thought you were. I think he (and maybe you too) got caught up in the emotions of it all. For him it wasn't really real it was more like a game.
Honestly, he seems insecure and unrealistic and absolutely heartless.
You have only known each other 3 months and most of that has been online.
Be glad he didn't string you along while seeing someone else. And next time, I would go for a guy in your own zipcode who you can get to know face to face, spend time with, create memories with and have a "real" relationship with.
Chin up and be glad you lost that loser. If a guy can say Oh, I love you one day and then I don't care then next, he is a scumbag.
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