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26-29,
*illowheartstring
writes:My boyfriend broke up with me because he said he was a bad boyfriend and he did everything wrong?erm a couple of months ago our relationship was a little rough because he cheated on me and was texting other girls, i got fed up of it and he got fed up of apprently doing everything wrong. i was slightly stupid and asked for him back and he refused because he said he 'didnt want to upset me anymore, and that he wasnt good enough' which i tried to convince him wasnt true because before all this cheating business it was really really amazing.we got back together and have been back together for awhile and its been really good again but last week i was diagnosed with ME/CFS. obviously i let him know and i think he freaked out about it. the same day he goes on facebook slagging me off to this other girl and flirting with her and ever since he always talks about her. then yesturday suddenly out of the blue he says he cant be with me because of my ME/CFS which i kinda understand but then he kept changing his story. he went back to saying 'im a rubbish boyfriend i do everything wrong i cant be with you' and im not sure what to do?
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (30 November 2010):
 Look, he IS a bad boyfriend, in fact he was a terrible boyfriend! You can do SO much better than this loser, he is not worth you spending another moment thinking about him.
Relationships are not supposed to be like this, and you will go on to find a new guy who treats you like a princess and makes you happy. But all this guy will do is bring you pain and sadness, he is not a good person to have in your life.
He is a cheat, a flirt, he is talking about you behind your back, he is immature, selfish and uncaring. I cannot stress enough just how horrible this guy has been to you, you can do so much better!
So what you need to do next is to cut him out of your life - delete his number, email address, facebook etc. Get rid of him once and for all, and never go back. If you dont have his contact details then you cannot be tempted to go back to him, so this is really the best way. Of course you will be sad for a little while but you will soon see that he is a loser and you will one day find a lovely guy who treats you right.
Move on, forget about this idiot and focus on getting yourself better and managing your illness.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (30 November 2010):
 The answer is simple...he IS a rubbish boyfriend. If you have CFS then you definitely need good quality people around you as it is a debilitating illness. Your principle focus right now should be learning to live with your condition. Stress will affect you a lot when you are poorly. Leave this boy alone because he is a loser - he cheats, he talks badly of you and rejects you on the basis of your illness. I don't think he is rejecting you because of CFS, it is just an excuse as he already explained he wanted to leave. I appreciate that you might feel under pressure to have a boyfriend as a teenager, but not at the price of your well-being. It is far better to be single and wait for someone decent to come alone. Teenage boys can make rubbish boyfriends as they mature at a slower rate than girls. Therefore, it might mean waiting until you reach adulthood before you find a nice person to share your life with.
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