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writes:My ex broke my heart about an hour ago. I ended up deleting him from everything, erasing all memories of him, basically pretending he never existed. but I'm so sadi feel so sad that he won't be there anymore. I can't just call or text him to say hi anymore. He's not going to be a part of my life, I mean he went from being the main part to being...nothing.how do I even deal with this?I know you're going to say time, but any short term cures?I just feel so alone right now, i don't know
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2011): Id take cindy up on that offer cause by that time she'll be able to get a senior discount at restaurants. Thus, you can make her buy you a more expensive dinner lol :)Hey sweets... tough day huh? The immediate pain is hell I know. Crying is very normal. Ive done it I admit... I was in a five year relationship and it ended suddenly when the girl cheated and I found out in a rather bad manner. A few days later after we discussed I tossed everything I knew of her, pictures, clothes, everything even some gifts. No joke. I was angry yes but I needed to move on and I had to do what was necessary and you have done that here. An excellent first step to recovery. Once you have that good cry a few days will pass and you feel maybe a huge weight off your chest cause you let all of your emotions out. After your emotions settle a bit, youll wanna know what you learned from the experience so its important to go back and reflect not what went wrong or I coulda done this... no! As that will worsen your pain and block you from obtaining the lessons taught and growth material you experienced. Learning helps you progress in life in every way... ppl get stuck in the past cause they dont go back and logically analyze things, they just attach emotion to the events. If you want to continue to mature, you will find a way to reflect upon your experiences constructively. Best on this. There are many more guys out there and plenty with towels on their heads :P
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2011): Have a good cry and go through the process of greiving. Sit and watch movies and music. Go out with your friends talk to them and family.
Life does go on and so will yours, there is no quick cure for this pain. It is only time that heals but dont get yourself down. Go out with friends, do all the things you had planned to do before you were in a relationship. Being single does have its advantages, this is a new chapter in your life, so grasp it! After all there is plenty of men in this world.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2011): i know at the moment words are not enough to heal the pain in your heart that u feel as i and millions of other people have been there so u are never alone.u are unique in ur own right,never forget that and u know what if the guy doesnt see that then hes actually doing u a favour so u can actually now find some1 who will appreciate u totally for who you really are.ofcourse its only natural to feel loss but u can be happy in ur future.never let any1 bring u down,there are gonna be some lucky guys now who will soon around u...so u go girl!xx
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (11 May 2011):
 Honey, I am twice your age , I got my heart broken a few times, and it always got glued together good as new, stronger and happier , in fact.
I am not even a particularly superficial person- I take things to heart. But, life has a way to go on, with an overwhelming force, and to take you down new twists and turns that you'd never had imagined.
Everything that leaves your life, it does because it was not meant to stay, it was meant to leave room for other things and persons more in sintony with the real you, with your inner wants and needs, that at your age you have not finished discovering yet.
This guy seemed Mr. Right, the perfect one for you. And may be he was NOW. But there is not only ONE Mr. Right ( or ONE perfect job, or perfect friend- it works with everything )for all your life. There may be several for all the different ages and stages and circumstances and mindsets you'll go true in life.
I know right now it's just words. Write me back in 25 years :) and if I was wrong I'll buy you dinner wherever you want !
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2011): Crying a lot definitely helps.
Watching the news, looking around and discovering the world is such a sad place for lots of people should make you feel better. You have a life ahead of you, more than the huge majority of people in the world cannot even imagine.
Read. It takes you away from your problems.
And finally. The world is full of men.
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