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writes: I was using my boyfriends phone to make a phone call and once I was done I looked at his phone and saw my name that I called and then saw a message from another girl. So I looked at the message and saw that is was pretty sexual and explicit. I had heard the girls name before and knew it was an old friend. But I was upset so I asked him about it and said that i read it. The whole conversation turned into me "snooping" and that I shouldn't have. He re-confirmed that she was an old friend which I knew but I told him that after reading that, regardless, I was upset. He basically said that I had no right going through his stuff. The thing is, I had no intention of taking his phone and going through his messages. It just came to that, I know I shouldn't have but once I read the first part, I couldnt help it. So by the end of the conversation, I was apologizing for reading it, and he wasn't sorry for the message. I get that he has a lot of girls that are friends and I probably shouldnt have read it. What do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2006): First of all was the message recent....like within a coupld of days or was it an old message he kept on the phone..??
If it was an old message... let it go...he probably just forgot to delete
If it was recent break up with the guy...there is no reason for him to keep a message from an old girlfreind unless he still likes her or is possibly still seeing her.
Move on....
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reader, LISAG +, writes (14 November 2006):
 He should have more regard for your feelings and I think he should have re-assured you. I wouldn't have apologised for stumbling across an explicit message in my boyfriends phone, I would confront him as you did and get an answer. Maybe it is innocent, maybe it isn't, trouble is he will be annoyed either way that you "supposedly snooped" because he's either been caught out or he's been sort of innocently accused of something he hasn't done. Bit of a no win in a way. The following advice that I'm going to offer is just a sly naughty trick which may help you find out for sure what's going on.... GET HIS PHONE, SWAP HER NUMBER FOR YOUR NUMBER, NO ONE EVER CHECKS SAVED NUMBERS/NAMES. IF HE'S ENCOURAGING HER, HE'LL TEXT HER AND IT WILL GO TO YOUR PHONE - GET IT !!! Not recommended unless you really want to find out what's going on and also if he's innocent it could end your relationship if he finds you've swapped the numbers.
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reader, Ne'cee +, writes (14 November 2006):
 Please if this is your man you have the right, he dont have any business allowing another woman besides you, friend or not, send him any messages that include anything sexual. Get him right before its too late. Good luck
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