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writes:I need some advice...a Personal Trainer at the gym asked me out on a date several times...?I was a bit weary at first to go on a date with him, but he seemed really nice and we got on well. So, i said yes. We went on a date and it went well. In total we have been out 4 times, but after the 1st date i feel like am making all the effort to try and see him. He asks me when i am free and then cancels. This has now happened several times and i don't understand why - I have told him, if he is not interested i would be fine with that. When he cancels his excuse is...i am too tired as i have had a long day work, i am getting my tattoo done, i am meeting up with someone regarding etc. Sometimes, he is in a really good mood and at times, he can be cold with me. Could he be seeing someone else? I have asked him and he said no as he likes me etc. I don't understand as he was the one chasing me non-stop at the beginning. I didn't even realize i liked him until he asked me out. What should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2016): I see guys like this all the time.He is just a player.He is not serious about you. Or any woman for that matter.What he is serious about is getting his ego boosted.He's just an insecure, immature, shallow boy deep down inside. Needs to grow up before becoming involved with any woman. All icing and no cake. Fluff. The type who can and will break your heart.Steer clear of this one and guys like him.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (9 August 2016):
 I'd say look elsewhere for someone to date. This guy isn't serious. Not about taking you out and anything further.
Maybe it's a game for him, chasing a girl UNTIL she shows interest, then it's off to the next.
Personally? I'd guess he has a GF at home and he get "off" (attention etc) from flirting with the cute girls at the GYM. Wouldn't be the first personal trainer to do so.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe is not my trainer...he is a personal trainer at the gym. I have never paid him for sessions and he has never trained me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2016): He just sounds like he wants you when he feels like it . He does not sound 100 % interested in you im afraid. i wouldnt bother making effort to see him if he really wants you he would make the effort. Next time he asks you to meet up tell him no your busy , see how much effort he really makes when you turn him down a few times . Big world out with a man whos right for you
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (9 August 2016):
"Personal Trainer at the gym"
How many women does this guy train? You really think you are the only client who wants to date him?
It would be like dating the leader singer of a really famous rock bank, and thinking you will be able to have him all to yourself.
Honeypie makes good point...you are paying him...to do what? train you or date you?
Here is the thing my dear...Yes you are free...To date someone who will not give you the run around.
Get another trainer, and show him you are not some groupie hanging on his every word.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 August 2016):
Sounds like he is boosting his ego, not really caring about your feelings.
I would just tell him next time he ask you out that you will be busy washing your hair the next 6 months.
Also, if he is YOUR personal trainer and you PAY him to monitor your workout and progress... find a new trainer/gym.
Could he be seeing someone else? Sure, maybe he asks out all the cute girls and at the end of the day goes out with whomever he thinks he fancy the most... or none of them. Maybe he asks girls out to make the girls "feel" good about themselves and himself about himself.
He doesn't sounds interested OP. Not in anything serious.
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