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writes: I met this guy a few weeks back, We met up one night while out in town, and hit it off really well, we then met the next day and had an amazing time, I knew i was attracted to him. Anyway Hes at university and went home for the holidays so i went to see him back at his home. We then realised we really liked each other which was really cool, and he asked me to be his girlfriend, but said that he would ask me again when hes comes back to university(he's suppose to be back sometime next week). He hadn't been in contact with me for the last few days, no calls, texts or msn. Which I thought was ok to begin with, but the started to worry that something might be wrong. Earlier today he was online so I asked him what was up, and now hes telling me that he doesn't know how he feels anymore and he doesnt want to rush into anything...I'm really upset about it. I have this strange feeling theres a whole different story behind all this..I know he's been in contact with his ex. Can someone please advise as to what to do? Or explain to me why he's being this way? I just don't get it at all. Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2007): Hun, I have to be honest...it sounds like he just simply lost interest. The problem I see here is 'you' thought everything was great-but, he was likely feeling a connection but not enought to make this relationship exclusive. Dear, dating is a selection process to finding the one true one, we can love and cherish over the long term. This guy is not the one for you. You invested a few weeks out of your life, you became infatuated but he didn't feel the same. Over...done. Don't worry if there's another story behind his actions and what he did to you. . You are looking for excuses for what he's done and you are trying hard to keep your value and worthiness intact. You need to survive this painful moment, hun because you ultimately know where your self-esteem comes from. It's not from him..not from attachment to him but from you and you do have the personal courage to get back what his rejection has taken from you. No one can do it but you. Don't ever, ever allow anyone to take that away from you again. I am sorry he did this..I don't blame you for feeling hurt. This is the risk of dating and the humps we have to climb over to getting on the right path and finding out real true love. Do not call, email or text him. Accept this and move on. Life is full of crappy lessons and this one of them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionany advice?
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