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writes:hi allthe guy im in love with is birthday today...but i aint wished him happy birthdayhe has never told me when his bday is and i've never told him when mine is. i only know because he sent his cv to me to check over about 6months ago and i remembered from then.we aint in a proper relationship...in fact you can say we are friends we a close bond. he treats me well, in fact he treats me differently to other girls. but neither of us have been honest about how we feel.let me give some background info. we met at work whilst i was on a 2 week work experience. we got on straight away and i instantly noticed that he treated me differently than the other girls that worked there. he constantly used to ask me is i was ok. i accompanied him on to out of office vists. thats where we got to know each other. he asked me lots of q's and i asked him too...but we never asked about our birthdays. thats was a year ago now. after i left i met up with few ppl from work and he came along. once everyone had left he asked me out and i sed yes...we met up few times the week after but that wasnt our date. he asked me out again during those days and i sed yes again. he told me things about his family that i wouldnt tell my best friend. as the months went on we spoke on the fone online, and texting each other all the time. we always asked me out when he could. there was this one time when he asked me we arranged time place etc, we spoke about for days, and the nite before i told him to call me, and to confirm about what we were going to do. but when the day came, it got cancelled, we both were disappointed. then his dad had a cancer scare and he would call me everyday to talk about it, thank god he got the all clear ( he rang me straight away as soon as he found out).at this time we was applying for a new job as he recently qualifed as a lawyer. he found it hard to get job here so started applying in other cities, he asked me what i thought of it, but then sed to me that it would only be for a year and then he'll be back. well he got that job, he moved about 3months ago now. things have gone quiet between us, but that happened before he went. but when we do speak to each other is likes how its always been between us. the day before he moved we met up to say bye, and he sed that he will miss me. somehitng i never expected him to say, we hugged and then i asked him out, its always been him doin the asking, i sed that we should do something next time his home, he sed yeah and then sed come here and gave me a hug and kissed me. he has always looked out for me. he helps me with my work, and helping me look for a job. i cant move to be with him, coz my parents wont allow it and in fact if we want to be in a relationship when he comes back because of our culture it would be seen to be sinful for me to move to be with him. so im willing to wait. i know that he aint got a girlfriend...in fact neither of us have been in a relationship beforei aint spoken to him for about 2months now, coz i had some exams and then i went on holiday and only just got back. but the last time we spoke it was late at night, we had a little disagreemtn on the fone, and i hung up on him. i regretted it straight away, and i tink he realised that he shouldnt have sed wot he did cos the next morning, it was really early he texts me asking me if everything is ok. we have texted each other since then but never spoken. he knows that i wont speak to him in front of my parents. he totally understands, and he never makes me do something i dont wana. if i say no, he doesnt ask again.on my holiday i went to a holy place, and when i got back to the car, i saw his name on a newspaper. his name is part of a city name, but the other half of the city name was ripped so i could only see his name. this might just be a coincidence, i dont know. he also when we first met told me what he wants to name his daughter. its the same name i wana name mine, but i didnt tell him that (the name is very rarely used). there have been other coincidences tootomorrow my results for my exams are coming out, and i want to tell him how i do. but would it be wrong to call him tom, coz i didnt spk to him today on his bday.any help please. if u need more info please let me knowi really love this guy so any help, even if its not about tom, but about what you think of our relationship would be great.
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reader, blaz£  +, writes (23 July 2007):
 heya, lol i um really dont get the problem:)you two sound like you are really in love, and those coincidences are there for a reason.hang onto him with all youve got, if you love him as much as you sound like you do.all the best xx
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