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writes: im 18 years old and ive been going out with my boyfriend for over a year now. my problem is that he always looks at porn and masturbates (even at my house on my computer, on the phone with me, ...and once he looked at porn in the school library and then went to the bathroom to masterbate...apparently he does this alot in public restrooms) he told me about all these things. he frequently will masturbate a little while after we've had sex...and it makes me feel like im not good enough to please him. Is it wrong that i get angry about him looking at porn and always masturbating (even right after sex)? or is this just a normal guy thing to do? Dont most girls get angry when they find out their boyfriend looks at porn?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2006): lea22dc you dont have a clue. ive had a problem similer, and decided to make a video and take pictures of myself. he gave it to all his mates and put a few pics online. deal with it before its to late, xxx
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reader, lea22dc +, writes (29 April 2006):
Watching porn is not cheating, using his hand is not cheating. He's a marathon man. He's just not finish when you are, like I said before, lend him YOUR HAND, or something else. There are alot women who wished they had a man that can keep going, and going and going. He might be complaining because you're not helping.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2006): i caught my partner on the internet last night looking at porn. i was livid last night but im even worse now, i checked up the history on our computer and its filth. Pure Filth. I have a higher sex drive than him and he compares my dildo to his porn. But i wouldnt need the dildo if we had sex more than once a fortnight!!!. No matter what he says Porn on your own is cheating
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFor those who said maybe he didnt orgasm after sex, i know for a fact that he always does...but a half an hour to an hour later he gets turned on again and jerks off (as if the sex wasnt enough)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2006): You have every right to be angry with him. He needs help and you should get out while you can. Don't listen to lea22dc's advice because i have been where you are. I had a boyfriend who masturbated all the time (sometimes twice in a row). he told me he did it at least 9 times a day. He would try and force me to watch porn on his computer and his tv but i would just leave. it then escalated to the point where he would do anything to force me to have sex with him and do what he wanted. He was obsessed with sex, but i think it was more of a psychological problem resulting from his past (i don't know exactly what). i was like his sex slave and when i finally broke up with him that is when he sexually assaulted me, laughing the whole time and saying "this could be considered rape." it was horrible and i reported it to the police, but they couldn't do anything because it was his word against mine. I DON'T WANT THIS TO HAPPEN TO YOU! TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF-YOU DESERVE BETTER! YOU SHOULD FOLLOW YOUR GUT AND TELL HIM HE NEEDS HELP.
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reader, lea22dc +, writes (16 April 2006):
There's nothing to get angry about. If he watches porn that often, maybe you should try being the show. Buy some sexy lingerie, or a slutty outfit, you could be the show. About the masterbating, it is a sign that he's not getting enough from you. I have the same problem, after I have sex, if I didn't cum by clitorial stimulation, I'll masterbate. If I didn't cum at all I definetly masterbate. But that doesn't make it a bad thing. His sex drive just seem to be alot higher than yours. Now you'd really be complaining if the tables were turn. so the next time he starts masterbating after sex, HELP!!! Kindly lend him your hand, mouth or breast. Guys love it when yor willing to do whatever it takes to make him happy. He'll fall in love with you all over again.
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (15 April 2006):
 Sounds like he loves masturbating and this has taken controle of him.
I dont know of any men that masturbate straight after sex unless he did not orgasm.
Sounds like he gets his kicks from masturbating in public places or anywhere for that matter and no this is not normal.
you need to tell him that you think his masturbation has got out of hand (oops) and that he is upsetting you and ultimatly if he chooses to continue upsetting you then maybe the end of the road is ahead as he may preffere his hand to you.
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reader, Jadzia1127  +, writes (15 April 2006):
It is not wrong for you to get angry. A man in a relationship using porn, is cheating on his partner. The old adage boys will be boys is for little boys and their trucks noises while playing and stinky socks, not for the excuse for men whacking off to porn. That is just lack of self control.
What your dealing with is not normal!!!!!
This is an addiction and in the least it can lead to impotence. It is like a drug and when soft porn doesn't do it anymore, then hard-core porn, then illegal porn, and so on. It can also lead to some very scary actions, considering 99-100% of sex offenders have a serious addiction to hard-core and illegal porn.
The real question you need to ask yourself is, do you want to have this in your life?
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reader, CaptainPicard +, writes (15 April 2006):
 All the guys I know, and many of the women too, either own porn or watch porn from time to time. And I'd say that everybody masturbates from time to time, although some people don't want to admit it.Looking at the bright, I am sure he will be willing to have sex anytime you want and being with someone horny can be a lot of fun.However when it becomes an obsession, it is not normal.It seems that he is masturbating all the time and everywhere.Have you just talked to him about it?
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