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writes:I need some adviceMy guy and I have been together a few years,he always likes me to make the 1st move in sex.....Ive had enough of this ,this dawned on me that he liked this just a few months ago when I didnt make the 1st move and sex stopped?Im really fed up with it and wonder why,he said he fears rejection if he makes the 1st move.How can I show him hes not playing fair?He like the stockings basques etc.....Id like some flipping attention! If I mention this he just said I dont make an effort why should he?Cheers Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi Thanks for your answers it was nice to have replies,he made the first move last night so maybe hes realised I was fed up with it or maybe it was a one off so he can say ''well I made the 1st move Thursday?''
Thanks again guys x
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reader, faith scott boreanaz +, writes (13 September 2007):
 Its possible he's turned on by a very dominating and slightly forceful woman, this would explain why he likes you to make the first move. If you want to get him to make the first move talk to him about it or introduce a bit of roll play into your sex life, i have quite a few ideas so if you need more just email. All the best. Faith.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): He probably needs a dominatrix or a controlling mother, and you want an equal partner. Apples and oranges, but nothing wrong about having different preferences.. but there is the added complication of him being self defensive about the whole thing, which contributes to the problem. Two way communication is so important. No games. You may want to re-examine the relationship, and ask yourself if this is someone you can see yourself living with the rest of your life.
I know, because I married someone like your bf. It is like living with a brother, and I have to play the dominatrix if I want to get some.. and I hate that. he will never change, and I realize that.. please learn from my lesson that people won't change unless they want to, and you certainly can't force them to.
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reader, kindone  +, writes (13 September 2007):
 hold out till he can't take it any more and then he'll be so horny that he'll "take it" we shouldn"t always have to make the first move they can also makes them feel good to.
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reader, CC-Monkey +, writes (13 September 2007):
 sit down and dicuss this with him and tell him how you feel. he should understand you need your needs aswell as his.
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