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*aydream80
writes:I have been with this guy for about 7 months. everything was going good and all of a sudden he breaks up with me and says that he just waants to be friends for now and he doesn't want to be in a commited relationship. i never said anthing to him about that im not ready to be in a committed relationship either i love him alot and dont want to lose him what do i do and how can i get him back as my boyfriendnothing more nothing less what do i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2010): just let him go...he is not at all ready for the relation n he will never be till the time he doesnot realise that now you've moved on in life and you have someone else in your life. talk to him to the minimum and make him feel that you love him. dont ignore him much but yes dont give him time whenevr he needs you. talk to him like normal frnds. and give him maximum space he wants. dont take out old issues and forgive him for evrything. hope it'l work.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (3 March 2010):
 Back off and give him some space.Keep contact to a minimum. Keep your options open and don't shut the door on others.If he comes back or changes his mind, he is yours, otherwise he belongs to somebody's.He realized that he has stepped too far and feels that he is not ready for commitment yet.
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (3 March 2010):
 You say you've been with him for 7 months...what was that? Just dating or were you in a relationship? I ask that because he says he's not ready for a committed relationship. What was he doing with you all this time then?Anyway, you don't do anything. You let him go. He's already made his mind up and nothing you say or do will change that.What you have to watch out for now is him trying to continue 'seeing' you without the committment. Don't even go there. Let him go. If he can't give you committment then you don't give him anything in return...no talking, hanging out and especially no horizontal dancing.He's made it clear he doesn't want to committ and since that's what you want, you walk away. Hard to do but the best choice you can make for yourself.
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reader, bmahony +, writes (3 March 2010):
You just let him go. If he comes back to you he is worth it and if he does not you can do better with someone that can not stand life without you. Trust me he is out there and you have to kiss a lot of frogs before your prince. Good luck on the search!
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