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writes:I really like this boy, and he's told me that he likes me. However I'm not quite ready for a boyfriend right now, so we're just like basically acting like a couple but not literally being one.. if you understand. But two of my friends who are really immature, when ever they see him in the corridor, push me into him and always tell him that I'm completely in love with him and want to marry him. They've also said that i'd give him a blow job and all this, which I wouldn't, just yet. I've tried talking to them about it but they just say they are helping me and keep on doing it. I'm really scared that it's wrecking mine and this boy's relationship. I mean if we were going to get more serious, which I would like us too eventually, wouldn't he be scared off by my friends?? Please help me!!!!!!!
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reader, Yos  +, writes (16 June 2006):
 DrPsych is absolutely right. They are probably jealous of you and are reacting childishly. If you tell your boy what is going on he might be able to help. The next time they do something he can turn to them and say "Why are you acting so immature? You should try to act like your friend here (meaning you". That might embarass them into growing up a little bit. If they know that he thinks their behaviour is immature they will almost certainly try to be have more grown up.
It's good that you are waiting to get to know him better.. Don't feel you have to have a boyfriend or have to rush into sex or anything. The longer time you spend getting to know him and becoming friends without having sex, the better your relationship will be if / when sex finally happens. And remember, there are lots of ways to have fun and be intimate sexually without going as far as oral sex. You sound like a sensible and smart girl :) Good luck!
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (16 June 2006):
 These girls just are NOT your friends, and they are a bit jealous that you have a relationship with a boy and you are getting some attention. Your real mates just wouldn't try to show off in this way - a bit of teasing is ok, but this is really childish. It sounds as if you have a good friendship with this boy. Why don't you just say to him that your friends are winding you up and to ignore them - I am sure he has already seen what is happening. As for your 'friends', well there is one way to sort this problem out and that is to stand up for yourself, make a joke of what they say, and start teasing them about boys etc. Next time they tell you that you want oral sex with him, say to them that you want them to give you tips since they are 'experts'. If you show that you dont care what they say then it will get boring and their attention will go onto something else!
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