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writes:hi ya at the moment im feeling that my family have been treating me like they hate me!!me my mum and dad always argue over silly things and i feel like are trying to start a arguement with me on perpose. plz help i used to get along with them but now i dont ever since my other sister and my niece have moved in plz help me understand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2007): its part of growing up. no matter how perfect life is, this always happens to girls your age. id reccomend keeping out of your parents' way for a while so they can cope with the stress. if you find something you enjoy (like reading or playing games or something) just find somewhere quiet to sit and do it. and if your parents say something just try not to get angry, thats what starts arguments. hope this helps :D
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (23 August 2007):
 Maybe your parents are feeling the stress of having extra people to feed and take care of, so they're "fuse" is a little short here lately. That can put a strain on any family. And you're at the age where you probably don't like being told what to do and when, so your attitude may be showing occasionally when they order you to do your homework, or clean up your room etc. Plus they may be expecting you to pitch in with the extra work load of having more people there; cleaning bathrooms, doing the dishes instead of having your free time like you used to. Maybe a family meeting is in order. Perhaps everyone should be assigned certain tasks around the house to take the load off Mom and Dad and split up the work evenly, then it'll be up to each of you to get along and solve your problems without constantly needing parental intervention. I hope that helps you out.
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (23 August 2007):
 Well I find myself with little to add to Smeedle on this one. The important thing is that you communicate how you are feeling to them. Seems like the move-in has caused some extra stress but that is only natural.
You are also of an age where some distance between yourself and your family will start to appear as you assert your own individuality. However that feeling of isolation can be horrible.
I was wondering from this, how do you get on with your sister and niece??
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reader, smeedle +, writes (23 August 2007):
 Sounds to me like you have had your nose pushed out a little and are jealouse of the attention the others are getting now it is not just you at home.
You are bound to feel like this and there maybe some truth in it as your mum has more housework to do, more cooking etc as more people makes for more work. do you pull your weight?
When we reach a certain age we start to act and say things that are showing our growing up and impending independence, this is not always in line with how our parents see the transition, and this can cause family conflict.
I suggest you sit down with them and tell them without getting upset if possible, how you are feeling and try and come to some compromise and maybe review the house and ground rules so you all know what they are and are in agreement with them.
This sould if possible include everyone in the house.
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