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writes:I keep having dreams about my boyfriends ex. I don't understand why this is. Some dreams I'm nice to her, some dreams I'm hurting her. It's way too weird for me. I DON'T want to dream about her, I've never even met her. I've seen her and pictures of her, but I've never even been introduced to her. Does anyone know why I would be dreaming about her then?I admit I do look at pictures of her, for the fact that my boyfriend brought a ton of them over and she has a myspace account. I find it interesting to read other peoples pages and see what's going on around here. I don't just look at hers, but I do frequently because I get very bored at work and can't find anything else time consuming to do. Please, someone help me! Am I obsessed or something? I personally don't think I am. But I would like to not dream about her also.
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reader, justice +, writes (8 August 2006):
you may be obessed with it so you need to call her have lunch and get it out of your system!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2006): Don't worry about what might happen and focus on what is happening. If he really likes/loves you, he wouldn't even consider getting back with her. But she sounds like the kind of girl who doesnt want nothing but attention from any guy that will give her a look.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOK, he don't still talk to her and the only reason I looked at her pictures that he brought over is because he said they were the only pictures that he had of himself. So I looked. We didn't look at them together, it was just me. He don't even know that i have looked at them because I realized it was a memorial box of her and got out of it after I looked through some of the pictures, because I was confused as to why he couldn't just let me know what the box really was. He doesn't talk about her. I think he knows I don't want to hear anything about her. I do not like her, I know I've never met her, but I just don't like her, probably because he used to complain about her before we got together and she cheated on him a couple times. The reason I look at her myspace is because I find it amusing that other people don't like her and she steals other womens men. I only do this at work though, because I'm bored off my ass. But yes, it's just me, I don't think he mourns over the break up because it was 3 years ago, at least I hope he don't. They were friends when we were talking, but I didn't like that too much for the fact he complained about her so I told him to quit talking to her then. It's a crazy situation...... This dreaming and stuff, doesn't get in the way of our relationship whatsoever. We have a great relationship. I may be worried that someday she might want to talk to him again and then steal him away, I'm not sure......
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2006): I do the same exact thing! AND I had a dream about her..so I looked it up. It said dreaming of your mate's ex means you feel like you have to compete and you are trying to prevent what happened that ended their relationship. Whethere thats what it means or not, I found out that the best thing is to try and stop looking at it. I think I might be obsessed a bit too- but I don't know why I look at her page when it makes me really upset. Maybe I am even a bit jealous for some reason? Either way, just try and think that, that was before he met you. He is with you now and that is all that matters. If it does bother you, bring it up to your bf (mine still talks about her sometimes and it bothers the "heck" out of me). I hope everything goes well!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2006): I think you are fear driven by your intrest in the Ex girlfriend.
Whose idea was it to have your BF bring over pictures of the Ex to look over? How long has he been dating the Ex? Do you consider her a threat? Does you BF talk to you about the Ex and if so, does he still mourn the break up?
Stop looking at her myspace. Talk to your boyfriend and let him know how you feel. Perhaps sets some rules.
He needs to let her go, and if he has; it's time you let her go as well. Focus on the two of you.
Best of wishes.
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reader, sucidaldream +, writes (8 August 2006):
hey i don't think your obessed i think you may just have a lot of feelings towards her most people have these feelings in a waysjust some stronger than others it's only normal just not every1 dreams above there boyfriends ex, it sounds like he brings [has brought] her up a bit to much, he's with you not her i'd just try & put her to the back of your mind she maybe a really nice person she may not but at the end of the end it's you & your man in this realtionship not her remember that & good luck
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