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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:Is it possible to have an affair just to satisfy needs and not get feelings involved? Here is the situation: I am married. He is married. We have developed a strong friendship over the last 5 years since our 2 sons play sports together. I have been unhappy in a marriage plagued by alcoholism, but I have tried to leave and financially it is impossible-- I already work 2 jobs and our debt is enormous. I resent my husband tremendously and the resentment from years of this abuse have left me numb to out marriage. The other man lives in a loveless marriage as well, but he has 4 children and left once before, but he can't quite do it either. We talk quite a bit about everything including our miserable lives. He has suggested we move this a up a notch and satisfy our sexuality. I don't want to lose his friendship, but would like to feel intimacy with another human being.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2010): the moment you open your legs to this married man be prepared to end your marriage and your kids life. why? because of your selfish need you will deatroy your kid in the process. instead of wanting your sexual urges satisfied by someone else's husband choose to eith work on your marriage or end it. and darling, please if you havn't done so already, what do you think this married mans life will say to you when she finds out that you want your sexual urges satisfied with her man?if you two married people are in such unhappy marriage then leave your respective spouses and then you both can f**k each other any whiich way you want. then no body would try to stop you.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (15 January 2010):
If you do this then all that will happen is that it'll be great for a few months and then you'll decide you want to be together.
So rather than your son seeing you as a strong woman who sold the stuff in the house and put happiness first and did not put up with crap behaviour from her man.... he's going to see you as an evil woman who abandoned his poor sick dad.
You may have to lose the comforts in life but sell up, pay off as much as you can and kick out your husband.
Once you are single you can do what you want.
Good Luck!! xx
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