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writes:Hi, I moved to from one county to another to be with my boyfriend 9 months ago and I'm feeling a little lost.Since being here, i've found it hard to make freinds, mostly becuase I don't feel there's a great deal here that I want to get involved in. I suffer with anxiety disorder, so i find it hard to go out and make friends. I also feel that there aren't a lot of options in terms of my career. I have just recently finished working for a financial planning company (currently looking for work) because I felt that I wasn't suited well for the job. I just wanted some advice on what to do because I love my boyfriend so much, but feel that I havent integrated well into living here and feel like Im not going to be able to pursue by dream career in publishing through lack of oppourtunities round here. Should I move back or stick it our for a little longer??? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2016): Good connections are made through volunteer work. Since you have time on your hands and you're looking for work, check out some of the local hospitals and charity organizations looking for volunteers. This helps you to keep busy, help people in need, and takes your mind off your troubles by giving.See those who have it worse reminds us of how blessed we really are.
I get a lot of joy out of helping people. You make connections, meet really nice people, and you see the relief you bring to people less fortunate. I am blessed, and I have to pass it forward. Please consider helping others, it has many rewards.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 July 2016):
 Have you spoke to your boyfriend about the way that you are feeling?
Have you tried looking for friends? You say there is not much in the area that interests you, what about your boyfriends friends? Do they have girlfriends? Maybe invite them for dinner and get to know them.
I know how difficult it can be to meet people when you suffer from anxiety, have you got help for it? I find that talking to someone and going through CBT is great for anxiety. So I really would urge you to get the help you need to make the most out of your life.
If you feel there is not a lot of options career wise for you there, well then again talk to your boyfriend. What is it that is keeping him there in that county? Has he a good job? Is his job permanent? If it is then really you need to talk to him if you are not happy there, maybe he can find work somewhere where you will both be happy.
I understand that you love your boyfriend, but a relationship works both ways and you both need to compromise, so talk to him about moving and see what he says.
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