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writes: I'm having a hard time finishing it off completely off with my bf who I've been with for a year and a half. I told him that I needed space but I didn't completely just break it off. I have fallen for my old high school flame. We have always had feelings for each other. Even when I was dating my now bf. I have already made out with this guy many diff times already. I seriously can't keep my hands off him. The same goes for him, too. After grad night from high school a year I lost contact with him. Now 2 weeks after meeting up with him again things have gotten pretty serious between us. He's like my second bf. I feel horrible. I just don't know what to do about my first bf. I need serious help here. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2006): Honesty. All lasting relationships have this as a foundation.
It isn't hard to make a decision.
Who do you love? Not who do you lust after and are using to make yourself feel alive.
Stop being selfish as sooner or later both men will see how unattractive you really are.
So many people these days have what they want right in front of them and yet they throw it away.
You have committed yourself to a man; your Boyfriend and now you must own up to it.
You tell him the truth. He deserves it.
You make a choice now, this moment is your time to be strong and be honest. This is what will make you happy. Not make out sessions with the dude from your past.
Besides, Dude sees you as being a fling anyways as he is comfortable with you cheating on your boyfriend. He's using you and you are letting him do so. This isn't love.
You Love waits for you and trusts in you; he sees you as beautiful and worthy of your love and look what you do.
I say let him find that special someone who can love and appreciate him the way a loving man deserves.
Keep the Dude til he tires of you.
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (10 July 2006):
 Be an adult and make a decision. This is unfair to both people involved and you will lose both if you don't make a decision and stick to it. Remember that the grass is not always greener on the other side and everyone has to live with the consequences of their decisions but a decision has to be made. Good Luck.
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (10 July 2006):
 You have to be honest all round here. If you really have fallen for this other guy and there is no way back to your present boyfriend then you have to be upfront and tell him. He just thinks that you want your space, its not fair to keep him hanging on when you have already moved on in your heart. it wont be easy but you need to be fair to him and let him know thatyou cant see it working... he will be upset but may be slightly expecting it. I only hope you know what your doing... 1 and a half years far out weighs 2 weeks.. and relatioships are always passionate and hot and cant keep our hands off one another at the start and you get a tingley buzz etc, so make sure its not just that and all you were looking for was a bit of excitement before you do anything and make sure in your heart that you are doing this all for the right reasons and that the reltainship you are in cannot be saved. You may think that things with the new guy are great, but it could just be that your current reltaionship has gone a bit stale, you both need to work at a relationship to make it work.
Take care x
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reader, Jadzia1127 +, writes (10 July 2006):
 You know you need to choose or you will lose them both.
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