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writes: I am 19 and have been seeing my boyfriend, who is 21, for 11 months. We have had an sexual life for 6 months and neither of us have ever had sex with anyone else. When we do have sex, during and afterwords I don't feel great and happy like my boyfriend, I just feel embarrassed, but I don't want to let him down. Every time, when his parents are out for a few hours, he invites me round to his, but just recently I have either said I was busy or lets go somewhere else, like the local pub or into town to catch a film or something, just to avoid have sex with him. It's breaking his heart that I am refusing sex with him. He is starting to think I don't love him but I do and he loves me. Last week, his best friend told me, that my boyfriend was looking at engagment rings. I don't want to hurt him any more than I have to and I don't know what to do. Plese help me.
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reader, PersonX +, writes (8 May 2005):
Are you and your boyfriend communicating with each other about sex as much as you could, or is thoughtless sex happening too much? It could be that you're embarrassed because you and your boyfriend aren't working together with sex, instead, you feel like two seperate people doing this action because it's required. You need to tell your boyfriend how you feel rather than making excuses, so that you can work on it until you feel comfortable with what you're doing together. The more you talk, the more you'll enjoy what goes on, and the less embarrassed you'll be!
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