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writes:I've been rejected many times and I'm sick of it !!!!!!I was rejected at the school, bars,shopping mall , streets etc. I don't know how to fix it ? When I'm with my friends I'm very outgoing boy but when I approach someone I'm a different person.I'm now not very confident to approach someone and I really really want to do something about me. What can I do ? and Where should I put my hand when I approach someone ?P.S I'm a very shy guy.... Sucks !!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): Yeah. i would not go anywhere with a guy who felt he could reach out and touch me without even knowing me. It would make him look desperate for physical contact and maybe even just horny. Keep your hands to yourself until you know her better.
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reader, Hasden +, writes (9 May 2009):
Hasden is verified as being by the original poster of the question My friends said that I should touch her arms or hands but I don't want to do that becuase it's kinda rude, i think.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): I just don't understand that... i've never notices a guy's hands while we're talking. Maybe that's what wrong.. maybe you're focusing on EVERYTHING and tons of thigns that don't even matter. put your hands in your pockets or something.
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reader, Hasden +, writes (9 May 2009):
Hasden is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhen I talk I don't know where to put my hand because I get nervous and I freak out.thanks anyway
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): What do you mean where should you put your hand? Do you typically feel a need to touch every women you see in hopes she will fall for you? Because if that's so, you might just wanna keep your hands off and see what happens then.
And you say girls at the mall, street, and bar. It sounds like you are going up to complete strangers who are minding their own business and probably trying to get somewhere. I suggest going for a friend. Or meet a girl through a friend and hang out with a group that has her in it for a while before approaching her in a more than friends way. Since you're so shy, just try to let someone get to nkow you slowly or while you're with your friends and are outgoing, and stop trying for every women you see.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): Before you try to hit on someone, take care of yourself first. Confidence is really what it's all about, and if you don't have it now, you'll need to find some.Try brushing up, making sure you look and smell(!) good, and if you have any friends that are girls, talk to them for pointers. They'll be able to walk you through exactly what girls like and don't like, and hopefully will help you feel more confident.
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