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writes:I met my girlfriend and we hit it off right away. She is 28 and i am 29. From the day we met we spent every day together for 45 days, and fell in love. She was on birth control for 10 years and never got pregnant but for some reason she happened to get pregnant probly the first time we had sex ( 2 weeks after we met). Now when we found out we were both very happy and decided right away to have the child but about a week after that she started to become very cold towards me, stopped saying she loves me ect. One day she asked me thru text for some space, she just wanted to be friends right now and that she needed to figure things out and her life had been turned upside down in a matter of weeks, i told her no problem even tho i really didnt understand and she offered no explaination at all i told her will be here but as time passed i started to miss her and texted her a couple times to try and work things out together but that just made her run farther away. We have never really agrued about anything. She wanted none of that and now if i even bring up why she doesnt want to see me or that i just want to be here to help she says we talked about this and gets mad. As of today she is 12 weeks along and i have not seen her for a month and it seems she could care less about anything i feel. it is like she just shut me out of her life for no reason at all. I know that if she hadnt gotten pregnant we would still be a happy couple. I love her so much, this last month has been the absolute worse of my entire life. Im so confused, i would marry this girl in a second if only she would just talk to me. Should i just stop calling her and hope she comes around or keep tryin to get her to hang out with me so we can talk face to face. When it comes down to it i miss her and she doesnt miss me at all. Any advice that anyone could give me would be greatly apperiated.3 hours ago - 1 week left to answer. Additional DetailsSo i texted her some long text about how we should be building on our freindship instead of not talking at all and that i want to do whatever i can to help her thru this difficult time and that i just dont want her to feel alone in all this (big mistake). She responded that she is sick of me bringing it up and it makes her angry to talk to me about it, there is nothing i can do right now and that she doesnt feel alone. She knows i love her. I honestly think if i was not to contact her i would might not even hear from her for another month but everyone i know says just dont call her ect, but i cant seem to do that because she and the baby is what i think about 24 /72 hours ago
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2009): It really does suck doesnt it. Mind if i ask if you 2 still talk or see each other? She has not officially broke up with me i guess, apart from the not calling me and not seeing each other for a month... We have never fought and the only reason she has given me is she needs time to deal with things and she just wants to be friend right now. I just hate the idea of her life and things becoming routine without me so i keep tryin to text her to meet up or text her good night. I have even cried about it more then once, i am 30 years old and hadnt cried since i was probly 20....
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2009): I certainly feel for you. Me and my girlfriend have known each other for years. We dated in the past, and last halloween started dating seriously. Things moved pretty fast, and she pushed for it to continue. She asked me if she could stop taking her birth control after we had moved in, and unfortunately I agreed. I only say unfortunately now because we are 3 months in to the pregnancy and she has left. It all came about pretty quick (her leaving that is) and I don't even know why. She won't give any solid reason for thinking leaving me is a good idea. She just says that we fought, which doesnt make any sense either because it was her picking at me for insignificant issues that previously she said was her hormones causing it. Obviously I have left out a lot of detail for time saving, but I wanted to let you know I'm just as confused as you are. And I assume, you are just as hurt about it all as I am. Yes I love her very much but the more I try to talk to her about anything, the more she pushes away.
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