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writes: I have a big problem with the ladies, am 21 good looking not giving my self a big head or nothing please don’t get me wrong, most women find me attractive not all. Anyways I have trouble with the ladies that I meet, just came out of a relationship with my girlfriend, basically all my relationship the girls end up loosing interest in me. and breaking it off. Am feeling really bad and hurt and later on trying to get back with them, I mean I give them money I treat them like a queen but get a bit jealous with the male friends coz there is only one thing on there mind. I just hate dating a girl that have been with too many guys, I feel as if she would always be like that or still like’s one of them something of that nature, it just make’s me feel uncomfortable in the relationship and I end up acting funny towards her. Am a nice guy don’t cheat on my women like them to be pretty, I feel good when other guys look at her it makes me feel good and that knowing she is pretty. I get women looking at me but hate going up to them to start asking for a number and all that, I prefer to go through a friend, I just need someone that would just love me and me and her would just be in a little planet, I have been told to be arrogant, I mean you find girls looking at your in the club for so long that you think you know them before or something, then when you approach them they say the have a man or sometimes silly. they lie sometimes the tell the truth, and when you see their boy friend he’s just there you know, after making you feel so low, I mean it take’s a lot to move to a girl. My previous relationship just ended she told me that she found someone else and am ok with that although she is my type, but her happiness make’s me happy we agreed to be friends, am fine with that, she is really pretty tho but after she told me about this guy, I once felt that way about someone before and I know what it feels like. At the moment I have no confidence in girls and my self. Why do girls act that way in the clubs, it happens to me almost every time I go out. One of my close friend of mine said that I look stuck up my ass and girls think I have a girlfriend, and think am a player, am not, I have been called a player occasionally but am not, if I spend money on them and when they see how clingy I get and soft, they take advantage start playing games, it makes me feel weak. When I break up I make the girls feel pretty and give them confidence always do. Is it that am just to into love or what or it’s just me? Please need help on this please.
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (17 January 2007):
 Not all girls are bad or difficult to be with.
Step 1You need to go through the rebound stage and heal properly first.
Step 2 is to build self esteem. Sometimes relationships do not work out, this is not necessarily yours or anybodys fault but a fact of life.
Step 3 is to be cool and enjoy life
Step 4 is to make the most of it
You need to find someone who is compatible first of all so do not make anyone feel like a queen until you meet your princess.
The right one is out there. Do not try so hard. Negative vibes you may be sending our may you look arrogant even if you are not.
some girls may not like to be asked for a number via a contact in case it is a joke or a dare.
ask direct, you will get more respect and try to get feedback why relationships break up, it is one of the ways of finding out what areas to work on if any.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2007): to me it just sounds you try to hard. just be yourself and relax, have fun being single for a while. go out with your friends and calm down a bit..and when your with a woman stop buying her everything and treating her like a queen, its not good. by all means gifts are good but if you treat her like a queen she'll either abuse it or get smothered by it.
you sound very needy, and that comes across in a relationship, sometimes its good to play hard to get. but if your yourself and dont try so hard youll always find the right person eventually
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