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writes: Any suggestions gratefully recieved!!I went on a semi-blind date with a guy 2 weeks ago and we got on brilliantly - he was flirting like mad, as was I, and afterwards he asked if I work week-ends, when I was next around and said we'd have to book a 'proper' night out, before kissing me on the cheek and going home.I thought "great, this one actually likes me!", but I'm scared I've frightened him off... y'see, I texted him and emailed as usual, however he's not replied to my last email or texts and I'm beginning to wonder what's going on. I really like this guy and can't stop thinking about him - I got a gut feeling that he really did like me, was I wrong? Have I scared him away?!Please help - I'm going out of my mind!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2006): I think the most common problem with people who have had first time dates, is some of us allow 'expectations' to rule over our common sense. You have to remember, the initial stages of dating are crucial and dating is a selection process, to finding someone who could be a potential partner for your future. So good first impressions are important. You got to be careful here, because one's enthusiasm can be mistaken for over-eagerness and desperation. This can send a person running in the opposite direction. So just stay calm and keep a cool head. You've just been on a date, you've contacted him. The ball is in his court. Let him write back. Stop wallowing in worry and being anxious as to whether he'll call or not. Take it slow and let this play out. If it's meant to be--it will happen. Times have changed, some women do like to take the bull by the horns and call for a 2nd date to their potential bf. Some shyer men appreciate this approach. but many men don't. So depending on the type of guy he is, this approach may not be something he likes. My suggestion is just relax and get a hold of your feelings.
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reader, claire_x100 +, writes (18 September 2006):
 I dont think you have, i think its a bit rude he hasnt replied to you but maybe hes been busy. I know its hard but try and just wait for him to get back to you, you dont wont to come across desperate. I know how you feel you cant stop thinking about them and hurts to think that he hasnt replied, but just play it cool even though it hurts. Just remember to stay strong so he knows he cant take advantage of you or think he can not reply to you. Good Luck.
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