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writes: Hi there,I am 25 and have just started seeing a guy (few years older) who I really like. We have been seeing each other for about a month now. The last weekend I stayed at his and we slept together for the first time. At first we tried not to and thought we might wait a bit longer, but we had a bit to drink and he had taken me out to introduce me to all his friends, so we ended up getting quite merry and having sex. It was really good and we spent most of the next day together.When I left to go home that evening I was worried that he might think I was easy. He phoned me that night and we arranged to see each other at the end of this week as he will be away for work during the week. I have heard nothing for two days and just getting worried the fact that we slept together may have ruined things a bit or that he now thinks badly of me. Am I being too paranoid? Thanks for your help in advance. xx Reply to this Question
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reader, Toria +, writes (28 September 2006):
 I would just leave it at the casual text you sent last night and now leave it in his hands as to contacting you and sorting out seeing you, I know it's not much help as you do like him and want this to work but if he did use you then you have to just put it down to a bad experiance, learn from it and move on.
Sometimes we all act strangly, what scares one person off doesn't even effect another so if this doesn't work out don't let it put you off getting out there and meeting someone else as every man is different.
Good luck :o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks fotthe help. Still nothing and we were meant to be meeting up tomorrow evening as I am going away for the weekend. I know he is busy this week but I really like him and am thinking perhaps he did use me, which makes me feel awful. He did take me out lots for dinner and has treated me very well. I can't understand why he wanted me to meet all his friends also. I have sent him a casual text last night ao will see if he replies but it has got me down a lot, as I only just started getting back into relationships after a long-term one ended and I just don't think I can trust men anymore. :( xx
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reader, Yos  +, writes (27 September 2006):
 A month? By todays climate that's good going. The question you've asked is most commonly asked here after two people have jumped together within 4 drunken hours of knowing each other.
You should be fine, hopefully. Fingers crossed, as some men do get funny about this (conquest then move on...)
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reader, camille  +, writes (27 September 2006):
 I can't speak for him, but i wouldn't think a month is 'too soon' or that it's put him off. You got to know each other first. He didn't make excuses the next morning so maybe he's just been a bit busy. Try not to be paranoid, men and women are very different and think very differently too. It doesn't necessarily mean he's not interested or gone off you or regrets anything. It's only been 2 days. If you're so bothered, why not drop him a line or text and be really casual, nothing heavy, I'm sure you'll find everything is fine.
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reader, Toria +, writes (27 September 2006):
Sleeping together was a decision made between you both and was something you both wanted to do therefore I don't see how he can think badly of you for doing so.
As you said he is away working for a week so the fact he hasn't contacted you may just be down to being overly busy and just not thought.
Only thing you can do is wait until the week is over and if he doesn't contact you then you need to contact him and find out whats going on.
Good luck :o)
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