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writes:Have I lost Mr Right?? Years ago I fell out with him and his family As he never told them the truth. Recently we have been meeting up and having intercourse and floor play. It's just as and when needed.He gets married next year. I actually do love him and want a baby with him. What do I do? Please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2014): What's the point of trying to have a baby with a man promised to someone else and obviously cheating?
You did ask for help from the uncles and aunts here at DC.
I assume this is all just stuff going on in your head, and you may never execute it.
I also assume you realize you are asking a lot of a guy to have a baby with you; and care for another two that aren't his. What about the woman he's with?
You are ignoring a lot of factors that will complicate any attempt to have a relationship. Conditions that would never allow trust to take hold. If he cheats with you, he'll cheat again with someone else while with you. As he is doing in the present.
He doesn't consider you marriage-material. Just someone to have sex with on the side.
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reader, 185missshy +, writes (13 March 2014):
185missshy is verified as being by the original poster of the question1 were both having protected sex
2 floor play is in a car van ect
3 I would never trap him I would speak to him about it first.
4 I am already a single parent of 2.
5 some one asked if.they helped me yeah some of them did.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (6 March 2014):
 He is NOT Mr. Right and am I reading your post right - he is already seeing someone else? If he is getting married next year I'm going to presume he is engaged and NOT to you.
What a dumb thing for you to met up and have sex if he has a fiance. WHY are you letting some douche-bag use you as his blow up doll?
DO NOT have a baby with this guy, are you nuts? You think a baby will fix any problems? More like create chaos and that poor baby! Getting knocked up by this guy would be a HUGE mistake, HE will NOT all of a sudden TREAT you right or WANT to be with you. YOU are just a CONVENIENT AND AVAILABLE VAGINA. A booty call.
Stop being stupid. CUT the contact, walk away.
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reader, N91 +, writes (6 March 2014):
 Ahh, Mr Right. The guy that's literally doing everything he can to break the rules of being in a relationship, what a catch!
If you can't see that you're being used for sex then I don't know what else I can add...
People that cheat to 'be' with you, will very often to continue to cheat when they actually are with you, but I very much doubt that more than sex will come of this arrangement.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (6 March 2014):
 Have you lost Mr. Right?
No.
What do you do?
Stop seeing him.
I do have a followup question: what is floor play?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2014): Everyone seems to have missed a point.
You are having sex with this man, and you want to have his baby.
You are attempting to get pregnant to trap him.
He is a cheat and using you for sex. I suspect you are having unprotected sex. Which would be very stupid on his part, and very risky on yours. You may not get a baby, but end up with an STD instead.
Trying to get a man by trapping him with a child is a very bad thing to do. It will not make him love you, it will make him resent you. He will only be responsible for taking care of the child, you can't legally force him to give a ding-dong about you.
I think you may be feeling desperate and will try anything to keep him. I sense you may be thinking about getting pregnant as a means to stop the marriage. Many women have tried that, and just end up pregnant. He could just marry the other woman anyway, and disappear. He'll tell her you seduced him.
I may be wrong, but WiseOwlE is no fool.
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reader, ImmortalPrincess +, writes (5 March 2014):
 I'm sorry, I have to agree with Aunty Bim Bim - He's engaged to be married, and he is fooling around with you. He is NOT a "Mr. Right".
The last thing you should be doing is entertaining the idea of having a baby with this man.....he doesn't even belong to you. Put yourself in his fiancé's shoes and think about how you would feel if it was you he was engaged to, and he was fooling around with another woman and got her pregnant.
Consider yourself lucky that things never worked out with him, and go find yourself someone who is available, and capable of being faithful.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (5 March 2014):
 Your so called "Mr Right" is so Mr Wrong on so many levels.
He is MR LIAR because he never told his family the truth
He is MR CHEATER because he is supposed to marry somebody else next year.
He is MR USER because he is using you for sex.
You ask us to "please help". Exactly what sort of help are you asking for?
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