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writes:Hi, I have never used one of these before but then i've never been so confused. I broke up with my ex three months ago. We didn't contact each other afterwards and things seemed to be slowly getting better.However recently we have been in contact because he wanted to be 'friends' for the sake of our friends. I thought this was ok but maybe a little too soon. However the friends didnt last long because we still had feelings for each other and we ended up having a big dramatic heated arguement admitting that we were still in love with each other and that we never stopped etc. n that it would be nice if we could start on the road recovery and that maybe it would happen. Today he's phoned up and said that he just wants me to know that right now he doesnt class us as together and that we wont know until we see each other face to face. I really don't know what's happening :| , the arguement started because I admitted to kissing someone after we broke up and it really got to him. Now he's saying he is glad i tried to move on but to not do it again?!Am I just keeping my hopes up here for something that is never going to happen?We were together for three years, we broke up due to his family not liking me (as daft as that is lol it caused alot of arguing.)Any helps appreciated. Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2010): i dont think that you have ur hopes up for nothing. i think if the only you broke up were because of his parents then of course you two are still gunna love each other and want each other but to be honest, if you love each then it dosent matter what your parents or your exes parents think. they might think that they are doing the best for you but to be honest id say to let you both go a little bit and make your own mistakes. its how we learn. as for your ex. he sounds like hes still interested but hes also sounds as confused as you with what he said about waiting till your face to face to figure out if you two are to go out again. i think that when ur ex sed "he is glad i tried to move on but to not do it again?!" its shows that he is either jealous that you got with someon after you broke up or that he is actually maybe hurt that you did. either way he sounds like he wants to get back with you but i think you should stay apart for that little while longer and discuss what you are both looking for. either friendship if thats possible or to get back together or to simply move on from here. i wish you all the luck hunny and i hope things work out well for you both xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2010): I think you should just give it time. Just don't act on anything. See his actions. Hopefully in a month's time you'd know what he wants. You didn't break up for such a great reason that I would say "never get back with him". Arguments happen. Just see how it goes.You never know , things could work out wel. And just stop fooling around with other guys for the time being, coz you never know you might regret it later yourself if you really love your ex.
I hope that helps.
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (18 May 2010):
 I'm sorta confused: you broke up, didn't contact eachother and "things seemed to be getting better"? How does that happen?If you broke up the first time because his family didn't like you, you kissed someone else after you broke up and he had a case of the jaws over it sounds to me as though I'm not the only one confused in this, lollipop. Who are you dating? Him or his family? Does he think for himself or does his family do it for him?I think you have a confused game player on your hands. If you're split up, then what you do after that break is your bizz. and your's alone. Not his. If he's not classing you both as "together" Then what concern of his is it if you try to move on or not?I'd tell Mr. Undecided right where the proverbial buck does you-know-what in the proverbial woods and IF he ever gets his head together and matures a few watts then see about looking you up. This is utter nonsense. Don't let this guy drag you into absurd arguments over who likes who or doesn't. Either he does or doesn't. Put a foot down, sweetie. Otherwise this guy is going to run you all over the place. Better yet.. move on this time...for good. Do you really need the confusion and mixed signals?
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reader, trayt  +, writes (18 May 2010):
you need to meet up and take things slow and just have some fun and try not to let either familes into the picture ... you will know fairly soon if its meant to be.
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