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writes:Hey guys, could do with some advice here. Main question - do you think if you sleep with a girl on 2nd date that means you give the impression you're not that interested in a relationship/serious thing, but moreso a casual thing? I met this girl at a party and we got it on, I stayed over but we didn't sleep together. Then we met up another time for drinks and ended up sleeping together. But I think I like her quite a lot, but now I may have given the impression that I'm only interested in a casual sex type thing.. what would you make of the situation if it were you?? Any advice on how to give the right impression? Cheers Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (29 February 2012):
 Talk to her and ask her what she is thinking and let her know how you feel.
I married a man I slept with on the first date... it happens.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (29 February 2012):
 It might not bother some, but if it were me I would think you didn't really care enough about me to take the time to get to know me. It would lead me to believe you are easily manipulated (no challenge for me and likely to stray) so I would be bored quickly and have little respect for you.
Despite how it sounds I am not condeming what you did, just answering your question.
This is salvagable. Go out on dates with her without having sex. Get to know her as a person. On the other hand, a casual thing may be all she's looking for, so be prepared for anything.
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reader, Pooki__11 +, writes (29 February 2012):
Talk to her. Forget about impressions, they are often miscommunicated. If you want to have a relationship or take things a lil more seriously then tell her, if you want it casual tell her.
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reader, katiekate +, writes (29 February 2012):
 Talk to her. Tell her you like her and that you are interested in dating. As a woman speaking from personal experience, I would assume that you weren't looking for anything more than sex or casual dating. That's usually the case when two people sleep together so soon. So, don't be scared to let her know how you truly feel. I'm sure she would be happy and appreciate the fact that you were open and honest (and not just a jerk who wanted sex). Good luck!
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reader, MarlonT  +, writes (29 February 2012):
Any advice on how to give the right impression?? Wait a while and make her feel respected instead of jumping straight into it and having hindsight issues that you might come across like you're after someone easy
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