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*isa2k2uk
writes:hi i am having problems with my boyfriend whom i love dearly, we have been together for 14 mths and had a good relationship until the past 2 mths, he proposed to m within 6 weeks of meeting me.A bit about my back ground, i have been in a bad relationship for 14 yrs with an ex whom had an affiar with my best friend of 37 yrs he was violent and abusive man with me and never paid up for any bills . my current boyfriend as stood by me through this but from around xmas time he as let me down a number of times i in return have lashed out at him hitting him on three occosions which i regret deepley and am recieving councilling for at the moment.when we argue he don,t answer my calls and shouts me down will not let me get my veiw across tells me to hurry up and gets very impatient.A t xmas i was intreduced to a friend of his called debbie whom is a married women but is very young in the mind. she asked me why i did not drink alcohol so i did not want totell her that i am on antidepresants so brushed it of sayin i had to drive home. she then said how do you and billy have sex i answered none existant but with no malice. some two weeks later billy called me very irate acusiing me of talking about are sex life to people which i did not do and telling people i spend thousands on him which may i point out he is not working and i have bought him tv,s a car twice put food in his cupboard but only through love as he would do for me. before all this we were very passionate loving couple. when advised him what had been said he would not believe me and said well you have still mentioned about are sex life. since this we have argued everyday over it as this girl debbie i aproached only for her to then say , that bily had told someone his friend in a club he goes that we were on a break i became angrey and said to this girl debbie well did he tell you all i have just paid his car insurance i said in anger. her repsonse was he is taking the piss and you are a better person than me i would finish him. on that night she went to the club were they go and told billy i had told her i paid his car insurance an that we had split up which was not true and that i have treid to finish him but begs me not to all lies. billy will not believe me and said she is telling him as a friend. then today i get sent all are friend an sms message telling them if i have ever upset them then i am so sorry, debbie then called billy and told him what i had done which had nothing to do with him waht so ever now he his saying he can,t see a way forward with all this that as gone one and we should split and i can see that one person his clearly making trouble for us to argue and split but he can,t see it why? surley he must see that by her calling him today his proof she is steering trouble to split us up as he is saying cant take anymore .plse can somebody out their try and help me and what d=to do next i love him with all my heart yet he is saying doesn,t come into it and if i loved him would not speak about him to people and i say to him the erson who is repeating is worse but he won,t see it. this person is drawing us both out and to make us argue and put a huge gap between us, help me please thank you .
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reader, lisa2k2uk +, writes (7 February 2010):
lisa2k2uk is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your reply, since my post he as been in touch with my cousin saying he wanted to talk to him. he put his point across and said he loved and missed me yet still as not contacted me. then asked if he could return to chat to my cousin again on sun which is now today so will keep you posted. thanks alot again is so hard to stay strong though
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reader, KoriNickole  +, writes (6 February 2010):
in my personal opinion,if he cant listen to you or trust in what you say,hes not ready to have a serious relationship with you,tell him if he really loved you/cared about you then he would at least consider or really listen to what you have to say,he is commited to you,not debbie.
good luck,and you shouldnt take anything that hurts you.
stay strong
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