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writes:I recently broke up with my gf of 5 yrs and i went back to scholl this week and i already got a new gf. did i get over her too fast? my best friend says i did so i figured id ask some1 else thanks for the responses and its gonna be a week or two til i can get back to u since im grounded :(
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reader, yogosun +, writes (24 August 2008):
yogosun is verified as being by the original poster of the questioncouple things. 1st my age is actually 18. 2nd off i broke up with her 3 days before my new gf and lastly she moved to another state about a week ago so she doesnt see me anymore.
thx for the answer anyway kinda helpful
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reader, Yos  +, writes (18 August 2008):
 Since you only said you broke up 'recently' that's too vague to give you an answer. I guess the answer really depends on your feelings.
Coming out of a long relationship, it can take a very long time for your feelings and emotions to stabilize. If you don't do this, you can end up getting your new girlfriend confused with your old one, and bringing a lot of the negative baggage from your previous relationship into your new one. This is both unfair and damaging.
After a long relationship it's not uncommon to quickly jump into something else as a sort of release and escape. It's called 'being on the rebound' and very rarely leads to anything other something short term and usually messy.
But really, only you know when you are ready. If you'd drifted apart emotionally from you girlfriend for a long time before you split up, you might be ready right away. But if it ended suddenly and turbulently, then it could take you many months.
You put your age as 13-15 and said you were in a 5 year relationship! If that's accurate then it's very very unusual. Are those numbers right?
One last thing, if you really care about your ex, then imagine how much she'll be hurting to see you with someone else so soon. You might want to consider her feelings in this.
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