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*emale2012
writes:HelloI was wondering if you give any advice... I had some thoughts recently and wondering if love is dying or am I being selfish I have known my boyfriend for two years and although we do not live close by we keep in touch everyday, usually via the internet as it cheaper when talking for along time.At the start I suppose it was all hearts and flowers. Talking way into the early hours about everything.Last 6-8 weeks he has cut the talk down to 45 mins - 1hr a day... He still sends me a lovely goodmorning message every day for the last two years and always responds to any phonecalls or text message I sent.. Usually early evening he chats with me about our day and other things and takes an interest in what I am doing. Recently I asked about the long chats and he said he gets tired chatting on a computer for long periods of time. Especially when been at work all day looking at a computer.He does say he loves me without me asking him or prompting him. He is very nice to me and cares deeply.. I asked if he was getting bored with me and he says no.. He seems to be enthusiastic about me staying with him soon and looking forward to it.. So am I. He has said that in the future he would like to marry me and I am the only one for him. However he knows I am not perfect and said he thinks I can be a little selfish .. .. But I have these little doubts that love maybe dying or is just what he said I am being selfish ??or is it just after two years this is normal behaviour in a relationship
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2012): Thankyou for your replies, although I do not think he is seeing anyone else. It is not his style. He is straightforward talking guy if not happy he would say so. There are nice honest guys out there. Guess he is comfortable with a short time on the internet. But as said if it starts to decline then question him why.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (23 September 2012):
 Hi
It is hard to think of things to say for long periods of time.It must be tiring too,for him especially as he uses a PC at work too.When your not sharing day to day things or popping round to watch a film,eat together etc, its all down to the texts and conversation till your together.I think 45 mins a day is quite long enough,you both have lives to live,friends to see too.Not to mention just wanting to chill out after a day at work.
He has told you he's looking forward to seeing you, so focus on that , spending time together, what you both want to do.If your meeting regularly then the relationship can stay alive,you just have to work at it harder when you live apart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2012): Yes, maybe it is fading a bit. It this continues he may be seeing or talking to someone else. You may have to understand that men have plethora of women at their disposal..I hope that things work out for you....I can tell you are in love..Pray Pray Pray!!!!!
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