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writes:This isn't a relationship problem, but I'm curious about it anyway. Back when I was 18, I started taking a women's hormone balancer. I did this because I always felt I had more body hair than I should, my chest was underdeveloped, and I had an extremely high sex drive. So I figured my body was producing too many male hormones. (It was practically all I thought about). I never did act on it, though, because I felt I was too ugly, and no guys would touch me once they saw me naked. I could picture it perfectly in my head, me taking my clothes off, and them screaming and running away. Even with the hair removed, I still had tiny boobs, and to make matters worse, they were asymmetrical. I wouldn't have felt so bad about them being so small if they had at least been even. Anyway, after a few years of taking the pills, I noticed I started growing less hair on my body, and my boobs got slightly bigger. Both improvements. When I was 21, I had my hormones tested out of curiosity. The results came back normal. This was quite costly, but it gave me peace of mind. Now, I'm in my mid twenties, and I still don't feel any better about myself, as far as the way I look. Not only that, my sex drive is at zero. I can't even get all that aroused at thought of being with someone sexually, let alone actually trying to be with someone in real life. I think it's because I tend to get attracted to people who would never consider dating me. So fantasizing about them is actually quite depressing, because I know in real life they find me disgusting. There have been plenty of people who HAVE been attracted to me, but for whatever reason, I don't feel that way about them. I've 100% NEVER had it where attraction was mutual between me and another person. And I think this has killed my sex drive over the years. I think what is the point in ever having sex, if I can't do it with someone I'm attracted to? Or, has taking the hormone balancing pills done this to me? Have I gradually killed my sex drive this way? Am I putting my health in danger by continuing to take these? I'm afraid to stop. They have all natural ingredients in them, so I'm not taking synthetic hormones. Will I have problems down the road? Besides being slightly more developed and having less body hair than I did 7 years ago, nothing else about me has changed. I haven't aged a day, but will this catch up to me later? Will taking these pills affect the aging process at all, or cause premature menopause?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (19 April 2013):
 If you were my daughter I would take you to the GYN for a full workup and a good talking to. Just because they say all natural does not mean they are safe... too many tylenol or aspirin can kill you too.
I am sure that none of your body changes are due to what you are taking. It's just what happens as our bodies mature and figure things out.
I would also find you a good therapist to work with you on your body image and self-esteem to learn to love yourself as you are.
If your breasts are NOTICEABLY different sizes then plastic surgery can correct it and it's possibly going to be covered by insurance.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (19 April 2013):
 I think you need to STOP self-medicating and go see your doctor. There can be MANY reasons why your libido have gone down. It can be thyroids, i CAN be hormonal, it can be stress, depression and so forth.
Make an appointment and TALK to you doctor, let HER/HIM do the diagnosing and medicating.
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (19 April 2013):
Were these prescibed or were they from elsewhere? If you are under the care of a doctor talk to him or her. If you are self medicating stop and give your body a chance to balance itself. Teenage sex drive is not the same as being turned on by someone you live, totally different. It time to get a grip and get more positive. Hormone birth control can really affect your sex drive, but then a dr would be helping you. In fact from day one a dr and birth control might have been all you needed.And breasts are always asymetrical!Good luck.
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reader, R1  +, writes (19 April 2013):
 I would stop taking them. It's hard to tell what's in them from what you have said but obviously anything that affects your hormones can affect your sex drive, periods, mood swings, fertility. Having excess hair is perfectly normal that's why there about a million ways to remove it out there, even permanent ways like laser treatment which I've known women to have on arms and face etc.
You seem to have very low self esteem, this may affect your sec drive too. It's important to work on how you feel about yourself, how can anyone love you if you don't love you. Meet new people, take up new hobbies, exercise, get counselling, whatever works for you.
As a woman your sex drive doesn't peak till your 30's anyway so you have time!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (19 April 2013):
 Sounds like you have two things going on here, one is too much fantasizing about what may happen and imagining what people think. Basically, you're creating narratives that don't have a basis in reality.
Second one is you have physical issues manifesting. Low sex drive, using hormones about which you know next to nothing, some sort of fear of stopping, an addiction, perhaps?
Assuming that things labeled "All natural ingredients" are safe is idiotic. Poison ivy is all natural, so is oleander and castor beans. Castor bean's genus name is…. Ricin. Yep. That Ricin. The poison. Uh huh, it's natural.
Digitalis from the foxglove plant? Medicinal in proper doses. Lethal in larger doses.
So get yourself to a doctor, look for an endocrinologist, and make a wise investment in your future health.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (18 April 2013):
I think these are things you should consult a doctor about or should have done so before taking the pills.
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reader, Xearo +, writes (18 April 2013):
I think these are things you should consult a doctor about or should have done so before taking the pills.
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