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writes:Hi, I am new here but hope you can help me! I have been with my girlfriend for over 3 years, I am worried that she no longer feels the way I do anymore, I loved from day one and still very much do. Over the past 6 months or so she has become very distant and cold towards me, our sex life has gone down slowly and she no longer holds my hand or shows any sort of effection towards me, I have to instigate everything! It has not always been like this, we see each other 2-3 times a week and speak every day, we don't live together, but she does make efforts to see me.I trust her 100% and don't think she would ever hurt me, so I don't think she's is cheating. But I am sick of feeling unloved, she also hates my sister, despite my sister's attempts to be friends with her. I have spoken to her about this and she said she will try but I have seen no change. Has she stopped loving me? I have spoken to her about it, she said she was just stressed, and tired and that she would try to show her love more, but this was 2-3 months ago and I have seen no change!I want us to work, it's not about sex, I just need to know she feels the same! Thanks for listening!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007): maybe she's no longer comfortable with the relationship or had done something that hard for her to tell you.Or maybe someone said something that had hurt her a lot.It is a normal situation.But if the situation never changed at all,try to settle by discussion.Every problem has its solution.If she still act the same,just let her go.If u love someone,u have to let her go.If she comes back,she is yours.If no,u have to face the fact. Time will kill the pain.
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reader, Garfield2254 +, writes (26 September 2007):
Sound just like my marriage, but now at 24 years, think its time to move on
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2007): maybe u've been doing wrong with her and she thinks u r not honest to her. she just giving u a time to miss her and dont think she doesn't love you coz as long as she didn't tell u that she hates u then nothing to worry just understand her. what she say to your sister? i hope u have to talk with her and tell what she wants to know about u. goodluck!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2007): Hi Hunny
Its really time that you both sat down and you had a proper talk, I wouldnt like to think my partner felt unloved that is really important part of a relationship, If I were making someone feel this way I would really want to no. Your only going to find out the real problem if you talk, Explain how important this is to you and how it makes you feel, You have been together long enough to be open and you really dont want to feel this way any longer love, Its not a good feeling, You spend 2 3 times a week together and when she goes you must be left feeling very low as your not getting any answers as to why things are as they are, Even though you have talked its still the same.
She may be stressed, we all get stressed and your stressed to. About your sister, Have you asked her why she dislikes her so much it seems strange when your sister has made such an effort, Thats something else maybe you should go into after you sorted this out. I hope everything goes well for you and I hope this helped a little TAKE CARE LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (26 September 2007):
 unfortunately people do fall out of love just as easily as they fall in and then become stuck in a rut because they don't want to hurt anybody.
if you have already spoken to her, the chances are she didn't realise her attitude had changed and perhaps she s stressed and tired but after 3 years, i'm sure she would have been stressed or tired if not both during that time? and if she hasn't changed then maybe her heart isn't in it anymore.
when you spoke to her, to did you explain your feelings and how upset your feeling or did just ask her if she was feeling okay? she needs to know that you feel like she is isolating you from her emotions and you need to know where you stand because it is unfair to both of you to continue in a loveless relationship on either part.
when a girl goes off sex, there are sometimes issues like stress or tiredness but there cuold be more to it.
without casting aspurtions, talk to her again but tell her she needs to either clear her head and understand what she wants or it'll have to be over.
i hope i've helped. good luck
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