Has she gotten over me and moved on?

Ok, I'm 16 and my girlfriend is 18 about to be 19 in sept. but thats not important (at least not to me). I've been dating her for 6months. Yes, we've had sex but we didn't ruch into anything. She took my virginity away and i love her.well , she didn't have a job until the end of the summer and now that she got this job (at a prison0 she has become , i guess you would call independent. She is aroung older people and is pushing me away. We are perfect for each other and we have so manythings in common it's unrealistic. she told me she needed a break 6 days before our 6 month anniversary(if it was up to me i would only celebrate the annual anniversary), but she wanted to do the 6 month. She said that some days she wants to be with me and somedays she doesn't. also, that she feels that i 'm holding her back. that she wants to go to clubs and do her thind, not feel guity about being around guys ex: hugging them, kissing them (on cheek), staying the night over there houses.etc.now yes i'm not perfect. when i first told her i loved her i really mean't it and i still do, but a bout a month into saying it i never got it back but once. and on the day i could she it in her eyes she was going to tell me it back and mean it. I dont know why but on that day she was smutthering me(i fely like getting away from the attention). Well when she was about to tell me i told her i didn't love her . I paniced i dont know why but i did.i have never been smutthered before and i thought i didnt love her at that time. She was extremly upset and left. crying (that hurt me more than anything in the world). I care about her so much and i blew it. Will that was about4 months into the realationship. I hurt her bad. The worst part about it was that the next day after the attention was gone i felt that love for her again but after hurting her so bad i didnt know how to tell her . I didn't tell her . After a couple of months went by she kinda recovered from it and stayed with me. now into it 6 months my love for her gets stronger every day. the day i brought up that i loved her (again) she didn't know how to feel or what to say and i completely understood, i just wanted her to know that i loved her. the next day she toldd me she needed a break.i felt so bad. i felt heartbroken , like how she did. how was i suppose to know that i really loved her when i said i didn't? i never felt the feeling of be smutthered. I just don't know what to do. I tried to contact hher on our anniversary and she likes surprises, so the night before i cookied her dinner to were it just needed to be placed in an oven on the special day. i made the whole thing from salad to dessert from scratch. it took me 3 hours. i went out and bought glass champaign glasses and some champaign. i set up the table with fancy plates , and had a candel inthe middle of it all. On teh anniversary i sent her 3 DOZEN RED ROSES by mail.i bought her a costomized ring with our names and birthstones inside of hearts and a 10k necklace.oh, and a card. on that day she told me she was going over to her friends house and i didn't tell her i had everething made. I don't know why i didn't try and tell her, when she told me pretty much had planns i took all of my hard work and threw it away. when i did tell her what i had done she said i should of told her and she would have came over. I had movie tickets to a movie too. well she had this thing that when she makes plans with someone she hardly ever does something else. so i just said ok and told her i call you later.i just wanted her to spend that day with me .I love her so much.i cant believe i'm having to write this.i'm devestated, down, emotionally unsecure and most of deppressed.she means the world to me. i didnt get to give her ring, neckalace and card until 5 days after the anniversary b/c she was always busy.money isn't a big thing to me i just wanted to show her i care abut her in extreme lenghts. it was only abot a months check.when i went over to her hous ei barely kept my self together. all of our pictures were down prom hanging out pics everything. Has she gotten over me , ahs she moved on. I'm the longest b/f she's had in 2 years , and there were so manytimes she should or could have broken up with me but she didn't she says there was something about me.maybe sex has an issue , we had sex about once a week or 2 weeks , sure i wanted more but i didn't know when she wanted it too. that left some conversation topics we talked about, but i can never tell. it's been 5 days sice i heard from her . What advice can you give me i dont know how she feel and i don't know what to do. we have been on break for2 weeks is that enough time to say she's though with me?when i said i felt really depressed she says it's not the end of the world and i told her to me it really is , i cae so much about this girl and i am willing to do anything to prove it, just give me the chance. she has some baggage like her 1st love is one of her friends( not happy with that). but i see sooo much in her i could spend the rest of my life with her. We were serious , and please dont take me serious because this realaionship isn't a high school thing it's for real please give me some advice , i dont now what to do- XXXX you can send me the responce in through my email please respond

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