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writes:My ex boyfriend's new girlfriend has just bought him a new car, a 57 reg and he knew nothing about it, thing is they have been together for 2 months,and now I feel I wasn't good enough for him because I could neve afford anything like this, I did buy him things but never big like this. Also he went for a big drive with one of my mates the other day and he said to her that he wanted to cheat on his new gf with her. Do you think she's just got that car for him to keep him because he is a flirt and I still speak to him? I mean he rang me up wanting me to see his new car?Any comments on what people think, my mate said it's to try to keep him.
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reader, deejuliet  +, writes (18 April 2009):
 I am horrified at the innappropriateness of such a lavish gift! The pathetic, grasping, neediness of presenting such an expensive gift, especially so early in the relationship. And also the greed and avarice of someone who would accept such a gift. A true gentleman would have said no thanks. A good relationship is built on so much more than lovely gifts and when money is the basis for maintaining a relationship then there isnt true affection.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2009): Maybe she thinks he's worth the expense but doesn't know what's really going through his head. Whether she's trying to keep him or not is debateable but it looks like she's going to be one disappointed lady sooner or later.
It's good that you're still on speaking terms with your ex - there's enough anger in the world already - but he's still your 'ex', so what difference does it make to you unless you're concerned for her welfare?
If she's well-heeled enough to buy him a car and money is no object to her, maybe she can afford to write him and the car off when their romance goes pear-shaped. If she's had to take out a loan for it maybe someone should tell her what his intentions are before she lashes out any more of her cash on him, but there's a risk that she'll think it's sour grapes and take no notice. In that case she'll have to discover the truth the hard way.
Don't feel bad that you couldn't make such a generous gesture - cars break down and go rusty sooner or later but a good solid relationship can last until the end of your days. Given the choice I know which I'd prefer.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (18 April 2009):
He sounds like a dick.
Any guy that will accept a CAR as a gift and then happily ask someone to cheat with him... you just don't want that guy around.
If he had ANY decency or pride or morals he would never have accepted a gift that big. It's not right.
Be glad that he's your ex and when his new girl realises he's using her and dumps him, he may come slithering back to you.
Lift up a rock and show him where he belongs.
What a creep!
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (18 April 2009):
 Yes I think she is totally buying his affection.
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