Has my relationship ran it's course?

A female age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Hi, my problem is I'm 25 years old and don't know how much more I can take of my relationship. I have been with this guy 6 and half yrs, he is good looking, got great job and aspirations, but that's it now, I don't really know what else there is. My friends who know the ins nd outs say I should leave him, I deserve more. Everyone else thinks we look like the perfect couple. I believe he loves me, but I just don't know how much I can take. Here goes. I was 18 nearly 19, when we met, we felll immediately, at the time I had loads of guy friends, I told him this, there was nothing in it and I told him this, I also liked to go out with my girlfriends. He was cool and said he,lived that in me. We also had great sex, everytging was fab, my family loved him too. Slowly I was made to feel guilty about going out with friends, and 20 questions, were guys out etc. So I stopped going out as much, and avoided them situations. A year later he got a job in hong kong n wanted me to go, so I gave up my hob n went. At first it was great sight seeing, but soon I was so miserable, we had no money at all, I couldn't find work. So he woud leave early n I would spend everyday alone, he wud return from work in foul moods, I would try create meals out of nothing, but he would find faults in me, I would be in tears every day without friends and family. We did have some good times tho, I put it down to no money no friends etc. So he eventuallt came home, it was ovey being back, we moved in my mums, but he got a job in london. 260 miles from home. So he went and I stayed home, seeing each other once a fortnight, his insecurities got terrible constantly ringing me, to see where I was. I didn't go out with friends when he was home, as he would end up out too and find me n we would argue or he would question my friends. I am so loyal n trust worthy, I would never hurt him, but this is what he thought. Al I wanted was for us to settle down, then last yr he lost his job. He begun his master's and got a great job local, he moved in my mums. However he would go out more as a couple and the arguing was gettin more n more, we had no sex life, so I put it down to bein at mums. It got to the point I dreaded bringing him out, id go out my way to pls him but it was never enough. I was gettin less attention, yet he gets friendly with my good looking friends, slapping there bums, complimening them. It wud never bother me, but why wasn't I getting attention? Then dec 2009 we decided to buy a house, I thought this would sort everything, bring us closer, sex life cud get back on track. However now its non existent, I will try to dress up try it on, I'm told I'm good looking, blonde slim, I just don't know what's wrong with me, we try talking to no avail. I don't bring him out with my friends anymore as something always kicks off and its embarassing, yet I hate feelung like that. We go out with his friends now, and recently went camping. It got so uncomfortable at points where he was flirting so much with this girl, and when I said, babe can u show me some attention, he brushed me off. I brought it all up at home, everything. He said he wished I was more ike this girl. I feel so low, there r more things he sees me go without for weeks, and makes me use credit cards to pay for shopping as I don't earn as much as him, we pay the same into the joint ac, and earns double, but wil insist I can't use his money. I'm just at my wits end, my friends have told me over the last 4-5 yrs I can do better, then this weekend I went out with friends from work, he we went out with a mate, but bumped into us, he questioned every guy that was there, yet this woman at work told me h

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