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writes:My guy friend has been dating this girl ten years younger who's really immature. I think he's all caught up in his ego being that she's so much younger. I think he should be with someone grounded and more mature especially since he's got a kid. He's been saying to me that he wants her to move in. She just graduated college and still living that life. Should I say anything and be the honest friend or let him enjoy it while it lasts? What really bothers me is that he was such a jerk to a girl who was perfect for him! I know her and I think she still has feelings for him. I think he's making a huge mistake! I mean how is he serious right now with this girl??? Has lost it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI agree with you. I don't insult her to his face at all. I just think she's very immature. I don't say this to him. He's happy of course like any man would be dating a girl so much younger than him. He'd always be painfully honest when it comes to men that I've dated before I got into a serious relationship. He's been talking to the other woman though the one I felt was good for him. I'll just let it be and do damage control if he gets hurt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2011): You can say what you feel you have to, as a friend I would expect nothing less because friends don't just turn the other cheek if they feel one of them is doing something wrong.But in the end it's his decision and you need to respect it. I doesn't matter if there is someone YOU think is perfect for him. What matters is that HE is happy with this woman, and yes at her age she is a WOMAN not a GIRL. Please refer to her as such in any future conversations because he will not think you are taking the coupling seriously otherwise.Tell me, has she done anything to actually make you dislike her? But seriously mate, say your piece, express your concerns and then let it go.-Anon
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI started a convo with him and mentioned if he's ever heard from the other girl. Thinking that mentioning the other girl would open up discussion about his current relationship. I truly think he backed away from that girl bc she was like the real thing. He mentioned that they've chatted a few times in the past month or so. I just dont want him to get hurt! I've decided to just mention the other girl to put out there other possibilities. I feel he's moving his gf in for the wrong reasons. I guess I can say what I feel and hope for the best.
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reader, PerhapsNot +, writes (23 November 2011):
 She just graduated from college while he is at a completely different stage in life and with a child. Sure, it's possible that this will somehow work out, but it is highly unlikely. If you two are really good friends, I don't see why you shouldn't be able to express your concerns. What kind of a friend would you be if you sat idly by when you feel your friend is making a big mistake? If he is going through some midlife crisis, it's his problem, yes, but it doesn't mean you can't express your disapproval. You're not in a relationship with people to only point out the positive and to never rock the boat. That's not friendship.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (23 November 2011):
 it's his mistake to make... don't discount her just because of her age...maybe he wants her to move in so she has a reason to mature more quickly... while you can see the error of his ways there is not a lot you can do about it and you need to let it go... critiziing the woman he currently loves is a sure fire way to end your friendship with him.
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reader, cry +, writes (23 November 2011):
 boys will be boys! and its his mistake, let it go. you should tell him how you feel and what a jerk he's being tho ,just rember its his road not yours
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