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writes:I broke up with my bf about 5 months ago and I have no contact with him since. He had tried to contact me the first couple months, but I ignored him cause I just want to give him clear signal that our relationship is over. It appears that he had stop trying to contact me since last month. I have been feeling ok since our breakup, but I still think of him ocasionally. It was his birthday few days ago. I thought that I would send him a text message to wish him happy birthday. So I did, but got no response from him. I didn't expect to have a respond from him anyway. The whole day, I was wondering if he received my text, so in the evening, I sent him an brief email to wish him happy birthday. Still no response from him, so I went into his email (we have access to each other's email account), to my suprise, he opened the email but then he deleted it. I was kinda hurt when I saw that. Since I knew him, he never delete any text messages or emails I sent him. Does it mean that he hates me and doesn't want to hear from me ? Has he already moved on ? but one thing I'm really confused is if he has moved on and don't want to hear from me, why does he still keep the same password knowing that I will check into it ?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (6 August 2010):
You made your choice. That choice was that you broke up with him and decided to ignore him. I think you were liking the attention, and now he's not showing it, you're feeling hurt. Yes, he has moved on. Rightfully so. He couldn't wait there forever for you.
You are now becoming dangerously obsessed with him, and you need to stop going into his email and cut all ties. You don't want to be Glenn Close in Fatal Attraction.
And he kept the same password because he assumed since you weren't interested you wouldn't be hacking into it.
Cut contact, accept has has moved on, and move on yourself.
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reader, Illithid  +, writes (6 August 2010):
 Wait... so you broke up with him, and ignored his attempts to keep in touch, but now you're still going through his email and are worried that he doesn't care enough about you? You cut all ties to him months ago! I hope he IS moving on with his life because it's not healthy to obsess and follow someone that doesn't want him around.
And while he may have forgotten to change his password, that still gives you no right to invade his privacy and look through his mail half a year after you dumped him and told him never to contact you again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2010): He keeps the same password because he either has forgotten you can still read his messages or he just does not care about you any more and why should he: you broke up with him, he tried to contact you back, you ignored him, he gave up and then gets a new girlfriend. I dont think he hates you - he is just not interesed in you anymore - he has got over you - sorry thats the reality and you should delete his mailbox - it's not healthy for you to spy on him. Move on and put you efforts into finding a new partner
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