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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I'm married (unhappily) and have been working in a new place for about 4 months now. My boss is also married and is the same age as me. Things between us were going great. In terms of work he defends me to others, favours me, buys me little work things, is happy to give me time whenever I need it, apologises if he knows he's upset me and even talks to me about other colleagues. We also tend to giggle together on the slightest of sexual innuendos (I suppose this is a male thing?).Whilst all that is okay (I am a hard worker), his recent actions have sort of upset me. We were recently meant to go on a day trip together but he indirectly refused to travel with me, ignored me the whole time we were there and pretended he went on his own when he came back (we came back separately too). I don't get it. I sort of feel that he likes being near me (he comes up to me alot for the tiniest of things) but doesnt like being near me if it's just the two of us alone. I also can't help noticing the fact that he fidgets with his wedding ring everytime he talks to me. To put a spanner in the works, I am attracted to him. I'm begining to think he's got it figured and is repulsed by me!
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reader, mint  +, writes (20 April 2012):
 I agree with Moo, I think he's realised that he has actual feelings for you but is unsure on what he should do.
If you have serious feelings about him then maybe you should approach him and find out once and for all. All this thinking and wondering is no good for you!!
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reader, mint +, writes (20 April 2012):
I agree with Moo, I think he's realised that he has actual feelings for you but is unsure on what he should do.
If you have serious feelings about him then maybe you should approach him and find out once and for all. All this thinking and wondering is no good for you!!
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (20 April 2012):
 I think he's also attracted to you and is scared. He loves his wife and wants to be married to her but finds you mysterious and intriguing and would like to be with you and it frightens him.
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reader, Cozmo +, writes (20 April 2012):
 he could just be facing inner turmoil, he may not be unhappily married. he may be beating himself up over even thinking about cheating.
In the words of the philosopher Immanuel Kant "In law a man is guilty when he violates the rights of others. In ethics he is guilty if he only thinks of doing so." Don't pressure him or beat yourself up, he may like you, which he is feeling guilty about.
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