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writes:I am not in a class with my best friend's ex. Because we only knew each other at the time we ended up sitting together etc and I found myself being very attracted to him. Of course I know he is NO GO area and I would never ever consider it. But I can't help but feel attracted to him. Generally I try not to spend too much time with him etc as I do not want these feelings to grow...but of course i can not help seeing him in class etc and small chit chats. We recently got teamed up for a project together and are due to go to the library together for the day to do some research. But now I am looking at it from the angle that I have never actually spent a great deal of time with him - so I can use the day to get to know him better and hopefully seek out the negativities abotu him that may help put me off him. Perhaps it sounds zany but I think it could work. I mean you dont really know someone properly till you spend some time with them then you may find out you dont like their personality, looks, attitude etc and go off them. So anyone has any ideas or tips on how to make myself go off him...esp for the day. Should I be looking at the size of his nose and zoning in on it or something? Lol but seriously...any tips on how to make myself go off him...even more so how to use the day to achieve this...as of course I would never ever ever date him as it would break my best friend's heart and I dont like these emotions I am startign to feel that kinda hurts sort of like unrequired love. Please advise thanks
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reader, sex-slave +, writes (26 June 2008):
 Ask your friend if she would be okay with you dating her ex if she says no then do what ever possible to rid you feelings of him. Like imaging him do something you hate. As the last person said. But if your friend won't let you date him for whatever her reason, is she really that good of a friend? Just cause you dated him first none of your other friends are not allowed to date. Sounds wrong to me. Most of my friends dated the same guy. Only bad part about this was he was a player only one or two of my friends realized it at the time.... If she says its okay and means it you have no worries. If you really just want to stop loving him then just stop talking to him as much and just don't make anything hard on your self...Or regret your decision.
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reader, Susan Strict  +, writes (26 June 2008):
 Well, I suppose if you REALLY feel like that, then that's it. I would question WHY you feel so strongly he's a "no go" area. After all, your best friend has finished with him and he's available.
If you really want to put yourself off him, then turn the dreams and fantasies (we all have them when we find someone attractive, even when not looking for a relationship) into nightmares. Make him an ogre, and not the friendly "Shrek" type! He eats kittens for breakfast? Craps in his underpants? Has sex with goats? I don't know! But once you get a picture of him in your mind as something you hate, then it will be much easier to get rid of the feelings of being attracted to him - IF that's what you really, really want to do.
Good luck.
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