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writes:How do you deal with knowing that you have lost and ruined your chance with probably someone who could of been the one for you? That gut feeling that eats inside of you, the thought of knowing you met someone so amazing, who looks and you like no other person has, kisses you with incredible passion, talks to you with so much depth and honesty. Someone you know when you met them, that they could be right. It was as if something out of a film.But I ruined my chance with them and know i will compare all other guys to him, i don't want anyone but them, i have never come across someone like this guy before. But i don't know what gets me most, the fact that i met that person and had my chance, or the fact that i wont see them again since i leave tomorrow. My friends say i have to accept it, that i will meet someone like that again. But it's easier said, when all i feel is this horrible gut feeling and depression of regret.Has anyone had this happen to them? How do you learn to accept it? Does this feeling go away, or will i be stuck wondering what if and annnoyed filled with regret? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2011): Why have you ruined it? Could you not do something? I let my babydaddy go after cheating on him and i was a bit cruel after he found out. I dont know why. (Who i cheated on him with never cared for me). Someone else has him now. Karma slapped me in the face. If i only had one wish.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (8 November 2011):
 Is there any way to redeem what you did?
When you forgive yourself and accept what happened you will be able to move on.
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reader, Htsn47 +, writes (8 November 2011):
 Time heals almost everything. How long have you been feeling this way? It is perfectly OK to mourn a lost relationship; it's part of the process of moving on. If a long time has past and your feelings are still holding you back, then you might need to consider some bigger changes.
Different people have different opinions on this topic. I don't know that I agree that there is just one person for everyone. Think of all the possible combinations of personality traits in the world and how they combine in people. Do you really believe that there is only ONE combination that works for you?
Like I said, it's OK to feel sad about the relationship that is gone. But try to let it go and move on with your life. It is impossible to live a life without regrets - but they become less sharp over time.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (8 November 2011):
 yep..happened to me 50 years ago, you'll never get over it just get bitter and have self-loathing for a long time. IF there is the slightest chance no matter how small to reunite...do it now!
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reader, Claraw1  +, writes (8 November 2011):
 I have been in this situation, I let him go due to fear, thinking he would be better off with someone else. I spent years trying to just forget, to accept it and move on. I found that it did eat away at me and that I would still wonder "what if", especially at night. After a number of years, I found him again, made contact and expected him to have forgotten about me. He didn't forget me and went through the same thing as I did, we have now been in a relationship for over a year. We both agree that it was the situation of "right person - wrong time". I was quite skeptical when people would say to me, if it's meant to be, you will find your way back to each other, now I know that it is true. One way or another if he is the man that you are meant to be together, you two will find one another again when the time is right. Until then, live life, meet new people and enjoy what life has to offer. It will be hard, and sometimes it may feel unbearable, but you will get through it because you are a strong, beautiful woman. I hope this may have helped you in some way.Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2011): Yes. I had someone i mistreated. He gave me chance after chance,but the last chance i blew it. He never came back and wont even talk about it. I dont know if he is with someone and i dont want to hear it if he is. It has been hitting two years now. I know what i lost wont be replaced. I am not sure of the circumstances surrounding your question but i kept flirting via instant messenger and texts.
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