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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I am trying internet dating. I recently met a lovely man who lives 40 miles from me and has shared care of four children. He is adamant he can find time for me despite commuting each day for work. He has an au pair. He seems really keen and has been divorced for five years and lives alone. The other man I met has a teen daughter at home full time but works from home. He is very keen to start dating too. I have no dependent children as I was a young mum and wonder how other women cope with dating fathers. I love my freedom and wonder if Im being too fussy. They are both great guy but are restricted due to their children. I have a good social life but would like to meet someone special.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2016): That was a great answer below. Thank you for giving your point of view
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2016): I see your point of view but in your age bracket, most men are likely to be fathers. Same with women.Unless you are into very young or old guys with no or adult dependents, then this is to be expected.Unfortunately, a lot of the time many men AND women are overlooked by people like you because of their responsibilities to their children. Which is unfair. He is a father first. And a man's children will always come first. So, if you are not willing to compromise with this situation, it is best you keep enjoying your freedom all on your own. Also, keep in mind when it's a shared custody situation, more than likely, the man had asked for this arrangement.It comes down to how much do you really like the guy and want him in your life. If he is THE ONE, you will gladly be able to compromise your life with his and your family life. If not, it would just be another excuse.By the way, I applaud men like this. There are so many men nowadays who take off and avoid their responsibilities as a father. Men like this are good guys. And rare. My ex's father left his mother and forgot my ex and his sister ever existed. From when they were toddlers. They grew up without a father. And they have been damaged for the rest of their lives because of it.If you like someone, give them a chance. And see how it works out. Try to be open minded, accepting and understanding just as he would be of your own children. I say never judge a situation before taking the plunge because if you care about each other, then you can make sacrifices and compromises.
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